What My Kids Think of Me: Steven’s Perspective

I saw a blog recently where someone interviewed her son and asked a bunch of questions about her. I thought this was an interesting idea and, being someone who appreciates and encourages documenting our legacies, I decided to conduct a little interview of my own. I interviewed all three of my kids separately and got some interesting responses. My my what we learn about our kids. What I learned about myself was powerful. This interview is documented below and I’m starting with my son and youngest child, Steven. Next, I’ll share Sarah’s perspective and then Amanda’s. Steven is 19 years old and he’s quite a young man.

The four of us making wonderful memories. My how they grow up.

The four of us making wonderful memories. My how they grow up.

1. How would you describe me? Objective, nice, reasonable, humble, spiritual, a good mother, a better dad, the most strong-willed person he knows, pretty damned determined. The unconditional love I have for my kids is evident.

2. In what ways are we alike? Determined, deep profound respect for what we don’t know, objective, spiritual, huge heart, loyalty to family, hates excuses, impatient but controlled.

3. In what ways are we different? I’m more sympathetic, compassionate, and wise.

4.  What’s my favorite thing to do? Be with kids, travel, read, learn, loves to watch shows and movies with kids, help others.

5. What’s your favorite thing we do together? Talk about business and life, see movies and shows together.

6.  What is your favorite memory as a child? Nothing specific. He remembers when I would  come home from work and talk with him about his day and make dinner.

7. What was your favorite vacation? Our vacation to Hawaii where we spent time on land, then went on a cruise and then spent more time on land. Our trip to DC was a close second. I love DC!

8. What’s the most annoying thing about me? When you made me do essays when I got in trouble. However, you were always fair and I never did whatever I had to write an essay about again!

9. If I could do anything differently, what would it have been? Not give us everything growing up. Make me stay in karate and force me to take AP classes.

10.  What do you most appreciate about me? That you always supported my dreams.

11.  What are my favorite types of movies? Drama and love stories but you will see anything with me except horror movies.

12. What do you want my future husband to know about me? You can never tell her that you can’t do something. Bull crap isn’t in her nature.

13. If I suddenly had $1 million dollars, what would I do with it? Get a house, take on the household expenses again, invest.

14.  What’s your favorite childhood tradition? At Christmas, I love having everyone together talking about good times, eating your homemade cinnamon buns and queso dip until dinner was ready. I miss talking with Grandma and Grandpa.

15.  What do you  miss most about Grandma and Grandpa? I miss her presence. I miss his input and guidance on things.

16. What’s my favorite saying? When I say ‘aaaaaahhhhhh’ and put my hands up and when I say ‘eeeeeeeee’.

17. What do I do when I’m mad? Deep breathing. When you are really mad, you go away and think about things..

18. When was I the saddest? Happiest? The saddest was when Grandma died. I’ve never seen you like that before. The happiest is when we are on vacations together.

19. What’s my least favorite thing to do? Talk to dad… LOL – This is my ex-husband and his dad.

20. What is the favorite recipe or thing I make? Your homemade pizza – when it doesn’t have a bunch of veggies on it, macaroni and cheese, cookies, hot dogs rolled up with croissants.

21. What did I make you do that you hated? I hated that you made me do chores and laundry at such a young age. None of my friends ever had to do that. But it helped make me who I am but I hated it then.

22. What is your favorite/funniest memory of me? When we pushed you in that stroller at Disney after you pushed me and Sarah around all day.

23. What is the most ‘mama bear’ thing I’ve done? Hit and break the elevator doors at Disney when the door was closing on us without you in it. The way you said, not without my babies you don’t. That was intense.

It’s your turn: What is the most interesting thing you learned about me through this ‘interview’? What do YOU want to be remembered for? If you have kids, what would they say about you? Please comment below!

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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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21 replies
  1. Brenda Adams
    Brenda Adams says:

    I think we often forget how observant our kids are. What a brilliant idea to ask them directly. My daughter is only 3.5 and I am making note to do this with her when she is older. Thank you so much for this idea Tandy.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      I strongly recommend it, Brenda. You could create some cute age appropriate questions and do them annually to see how your daughter grows.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Thanks so much, Mary Ellen! It is indeed neat to see my kids appreciating the”punishments’ I gave them when they were younger.

  2. Mitch Tublin
    Mitch Tublin says:

    Well I am thinking I want to try that pizza! The issue is we are eating
    according to the Whole 30 so that will not be happening! Love this story/interview.

  3. Jessica
    Jessica says:

    I learned that you made your kids do essays as punishment! It almost makes me wish I had kids just because it’s such a productive punishment. Ah… this is really special! Can’t wait for the next two!

  4. Tiffany deSilva
    Tiffany deSilva says:

    I feel like I’ve learned so much about you from reading this, Tandy. Overall, what stands out most to me is just how much your son appreciates you as mother. He’s still fairly young, but I can tell from his answers that he has learned so much from you. My daughters are a little young to answers many of these questions now but I will definitely remember to do this with them in the future.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Hi Tiffany! Thanks for your comments. You can certainly adjust the questions and make them age appropriate and have some fun with your daughters. Then, you could ask them the same questions several years from now and compare their growth. There’s my idea for the day for you!

  5. Sue Johnson
    Sue Johnson says:

    Lovely post. I learned that you communicated with your kids, with compassion. You created a lot of great memories about for them. I LOL’d at the essay thing, very clever.

  6. Sandy Mangis
    Sandy Mangis says:

    I learned that you are a warm kind hearted person that raised some great kids. I know you have blessed them and taught them well for they look up to you.

    Talking with you kids was a great things to do. More people should do this, I think we all would learn so much about how wonderful we all are.

    thank you for sharing and giving us some questions for us to use.


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