Self-love and self-care are my community themes this month. After all, February is all about love, right!?! The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. This month, I’m going to share self-love and self-care tips to help you remember your magnificence!


Today, I’m discussing the power of asking for help. When we ask for help, we are allowing. We are allowing others to support us. We are allowing others to be of service. When we say NO to help, we deprive the other person of giving, paying it forward and, ultimately, we deprive them of being of service. I recorded a quick video about the topic of asking for help here.

If you are anything like me, I was superwoman…or so I thought. I raised my kids virtually alone, worked in executive leadership roles with longggg hours, taught at a university, continued my personal education and everything else with one arm tied behind my back – thank you very much! I was a very strong and independent woman. Always have been. When I became a caregiver overnight for both of my parents, I learned real quick how to ask AND accept help. I realized I couldn’t do it all nor should I. When I got cancer again last year, I was poised to accept all the help coming my way. I welcomed it and it’s my support system that helped get me through the year.

Sometimes, when we are stressed and overwhelmed, we think we have to do it all ourselves. However, it’s when we are stressed is when we need help the most.

It’s your turn: How are you at asking and receiving help? If the idea of this makes you cringe, I challenge you to find something…anything to ask someone to do for you and watch the help roll in. Please comment below!


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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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