Spotlight on Ultimate Health Secrets: Part 2 of 4

Spotlight on Ultimate Health Secrets: Part 2 of 4

Spotlight on Ultimate Health Secrets_ Part 2

There are four aspects to our health. They include:

  1. Physical health
  2. Emotional and mental health
  3. Spiritual health
  4. Financial health

If any one of these areas of our life are out of sync, it can wreak havoc on the other aspects. When we are physically tired, for example, this can impact our mood. When we aren’t spiritually connected and grounded, physical illness or disease can manifest; like a 2×4. When our financial health is out of wack, the stress can impact the other three areas of our health and life.

In part two of this series, we’re exploring our emotional and mental health. Some of the things we’ll discuss may be obvious to you and others not so much. My goal with this series is to get you thinking about your health from a holistic perspective. You can read part one here.

We are all connected and all parts of our health are connected. It takes all parts of our health to make it work. Click To Tweet

My top ultimate health secrets around our emotional and mental health include:

  1. Write out your tolerance list.

    This is a list of those things around the house that need to get done and are quick wins such as changing light bulbs, finishing that paint job, etc….

2.   Share your goals with someone to create accountability.

When  you write your goals down and share them with a trusted accountability partner, you are much more likely to stick with your goals. This will help keep your emotional and mental well-being in a positive state.

3. Give your full attention to an everyday task and see it in a new way.

For example, when doing dishes, take time to feel the water and suds going over your hands or notice the smell of the soap. When walking your dog or just walking in general, feel mother earth with every step you take. Notice the wind and the blowing leaves on the trees around you. Notice the bird sounds. Just be aware of your surroundings and see how you can create more wonder in your life.

4. Make a connection with someone you would normally just pass by.

We pass so many people in a given day and don’t give it a second thought. Spending a few moments making eye contact and saying hello to someone is a profoundly simple way to reach out to others. Better yet, pay it forward!

5. Forgive…yourself and others.

Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things we can do and it’s the most profound. When we forgive others; whether they are sorry or not…or whether they even know you are struggling with them for some reason, we release ourselves. We FREE ourselves and we are able to free our mind and energy with positivity rather than negativity. When we harbor resentments, it definitely affects our emotional health (and often our physical health, too). Love yourself enough to forgive others and yourself.

6.  Write down your fears.

Bear with me. It’s actually a great exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down everything you can think of that you are afraid of. Work, money, relationships, health, whatever you can think of. Now, I want you to write down something you used to be afraid of that didn’t come to pass. Now, think about all the fears you listed and reconcile that none of this will likely happen. We are giving into our fears. Now, burn this paper! Alternatively, you can rip it up and throw away, shred, or toss in the toilet. The important thing is you get rid of your fears list; knowing they no longer serve you.

7. What are your top 3-5 priorities?

Now, here’s the bigger question… how are you spending your time every day? Are you spending time on that which is a top priority for you? If not, I challenge you to track how you are spending you time and make small shifts towards that which you do want.

8. Evaluate whom you spend your time with.

If they are bringing you down, it’s time to let them off your train and send them on their way with love. You deserve the absolute best and I encourage you to love yourself enough to set boundaries here and only spend time with people that encourage you and your goals. This is your one, beautiful life. Make the most of it!

9.  Prioritize your day either each morning or each evening for the next day.

Prioritizing your day using whatever planning method works best for you helps keep you focused on the right things and helps clear your mind of clutter. Having a daily success ritual is KEY to overall well-being. Click To Tweet

10. Watch a funny movie.

It’s no secret that humor heals. Watching funny movies or shows are a fantastic way  to keep your spirits high.

BONUS TIP: Listen to music!

Music is a universal language:-) Check out my popular article about 226 songs to put you in a better mood here.


Grab your FREE checklist with more ideas to maintain self-care and overall well-being. This checklist has ideas in all 4 areas of our health.






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Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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18 replies
  1. Kristen Wilson
    Kristen Wilson says:

    So, stupid question… is the spiritual health something that has to be of a greater power… what if you don’t believe? Does that mean you don’t or won’t have total and complete health? However.. onto another note… I do believe that emotional health is most important because if you don’t have belief or the emotional well being, the others won’t likely succeed… in my opinion. 😉

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Hi Kristen! There are no stupid questions… I absolutely believe you can have total and complete health regardless of your spiritual beliefs. The key is mindset and believing, knowing and feeling that you can experience perfect health. I personally believe that we are a part of God and God is a part of us. We are all connected. I find comfort in my spiritual beliefs. This in no way means that everyone has to believe this way. I respect all belief systems. I’m glad you agree that emotional health is most important because if we don’t have emotional well-being, it’s difficult for us to be successful in experiencing overall well-being.

  2. Marie Leslie
    Marie Leslie says:

    These are great strategies to adopt for anyone. I would warrant that #5 is probably the hardest, especially forgiving ourselves.Most of us need to learn a little more compassion, especially toward ourselves. I’ll be thinking and pondering on these as I work today. Thanks for pricking my conscience and reminding me to be mindful.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Thanks for your comments, Marie. I’m so glad that forgiveness made you stop and think a bit. I agree we all need to exercise more self-compassion. Glad this post helped you on your mindfulness journey.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Yes yes yes, Maureen!!! Writing down your worries at night and sticking them in your bible is EXACTLY what I’m talking about when I refer to delegation/turning over our worries to the Universe. When we turn things over that we need help with or don’t have control over, it’s amazing what we are able to attract.

  3. Larry B
    Larry B says:

    Excellent suggestions. I already do some of these, but I never considered writing down my fears. If I just push them down hard enough and long enough, they just go away, right? (LOL) Okay, I’m writing…

    By the way, standup comedy on Pandora or iHeartRadio have been super helpful to me.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Larry, lol – that’s not quite how fears work:-) Glad you are writing… I’ll have to check out the standup comedy on Pandora!

  4. Mark Struczewski
    Mark Struczewski says:

    5. Forgive…yourself and others. SO POWERFUL. Sadly, so few understand the true and utter power of forgiveness. I once forgave someone (they didn’t reciprocate – but that’s okay because the power forgiveness is for the one doing the forgiving) and I can’t begin to tell you the peace that washed over me! Nothing else changed. In fact, they denied that they didn’t need to be forgiven! But I felt so free!

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      This makes me SO happy, Mark. You are spot on that forgiveness is about YOU and FREEING your heart and mind. So glad you felt free!


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