Learning How To Pause…Creating Life Balance


“Harmony is the inner cadence of contentment we feel when the melody of life is in tune. When somehow we’re able to strike the right chord–to balance the expectations of our families and our responsibilities in the world on the one hand with our inner needs for spiritual growth and personal expression on the other. Usually, when the distractions of daily life deplete our energy, the first thing we eliminate is the thing we need the most: quiet, reflective time. Time to dream, time to think, time to contemplate what’s working and what’s not, so that we can make changes for the better. Learn how to pause.”
–Sarah Ban Breathnach

Have you ever been so busy managing your responsibilities day-after-day and month-after-month that you begin to feel unconscious; simply going through the motions to meet everyone’s needs? A mistake I think everyone makes at least once in their life is being siloed in one or two life areas. Sometimes, we can be so focused on a particular area (work, for example) that we neglect our health, families, friends, community, fun, etc… Sometimes it can take years to catch up with us and sometimes it takes a traumatic event to help us realize we are out of balance.

Neglecting our whole self – our mind, body, heart and spirit – comes with consequences. These consequences can come in the form of illness or dis-ease, weight loss, weight gain, unhealthy relationships, financial strain, depression or anxiety – just to name a few! More often than not, the impetus for change comes when a consequence ‘strikes’ and gives us a wake up call. It doesn’t have to be like this.

YOU have the capacity to arrange tune-ups, so to speak. Like a car, the better you take care of it and ensure it gets what it needs to take care of you, the better the car will perform. So it is with us. As a woman, business owner, mother, daughter, sister, friend, adviser, coach, pack leader and teacher, I must take care of myself if I can do any justice for anyone else. This means taking time to pause… taking time to reflect on what is and isn’t working in our lives, reassessing what we need to change and take action accordingly.

When was the last time you took time to pause? I challenge you to take 30 minutes… just 30 minutes out of one day this week to do just that! I promise you will be more effective in all your life roles. After all, if you spend your time doing something, you want your best personal stamp on it, right?

Here’s to regular tune-ups and learning how to pause,


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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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