International Quality of Life Month: How To Live Your Best Life

International Quality of Life Month:

How To Live Your Best Life

January is #InternationalQualityofLifeMonth. This makes sense given the beginning of each year we tend to evaluate what’s working and what’s not. We create goals and identify how we’ll reach them.


There is one thing that will determine the quality of your life:


HABITS. As you think about what habits may be sabotaging your success, here are some examples of habits that don’t serve anyone:

  1. A lack of exercise and/or staying hydrated (maybe you prefer diet coke over water – not judging!)
  2. Procrastination
  3. Hitting the snooze alarm several times before getting out of bed
  4. Working long days with no breaks (the entrepreneur/work at home mom struggle is real Y’all)
  5. Not spending enough time with family and friends
  6. Having fast-food meals (or skipping meals!)
  7. Taking work home with you (or moving work from one room to another)
  8. Having your cell phone on all.the.time.

Can you relate to any of these? As an entrepreneur, I can say that all of these have been on my list at one time or another.

Here are five ways to live your best life now:

1. Choose Your Thoughts Wisely

International Quality of Life Month

We can only have one thought at a time. Do you choose love or fear? Do you choose to worry or do you find things to be thankful for?  When we spend time feeling worried or fearful, we are stopping all the positive in its tracks. Here are a few tips to end worry and choose joy, love, happiness, and gratitude!

     a. Imagine your life one, five, ten, twenty years from now. Look into the future and realize that many of the things you’re worrying about don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.

     b. Ask yourself if you died today, would whatever you are fearful of or worried about would matter. The likelihood is the answer is NO, it wouldn’t matter.

     c.  As you journal, write down what you are worried about or afraid of. As you write this down, say to yourself… what I’m turning over to God/Spirit/Universe (whatever you want to call it) is xxxxx. Then, let it GO!

2. Say YES to the Right Things and NO to the Wrong Things (Learn to Create Healthy Boundaries)

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

Here’s how to know the difference:


  1. Something scares you. When you are invited to do something and you know that it will stretch you and be good to help you overcome your fears, DO IT… even if you want to throw up!
  2. You absolutely know, feel and believe you will be a better person for it.
  3. Said ‘thing’ will help lift you up and be a better person or help someone else be a better person.
  4. It is at the heart of being of service.
  5. Key people around you; your support system, affirms you should say yes.
  6. It could be fun…you know, once you overcome the fears!


  1. It is not in line with your goals or legacy.
  2. The person asking is a continual ‘taker’ of your time and energy.
  3. Said ‘thing’ is an energy drainer and won’t help you grow nor help those you serve.
  4. You know you won’t enjoy it.
  5. You are only considering it because you want the other person to like you.
  6. You simply don’t want to do it.

There is so much out there competing for our time and energy. It’s in your best interest to always stay in alignment with what serves your highest good. Creating healthy boundaries is the best way to demonstrate self-love and create sustainable habits that serve you.

3. Get Clear About Your Why and Take Imperfect Action 

International Quality of Life Month

When I was going through cancer a fourth time, there were times I literally wanted to die or wondered how I could possibly move forward in life. Treatment kicked my butt in so many ways. However, when I dug deep, I grabbed onto my big why and the legacy I want to leave and THAT helped me get through the most difficult health challenge I’ve ever experienced. When you are grounded in your big why decisions become easier to make.

When you know your why, it’s easier to take action… imperfect action. Imperfect action is the only action we can take and is where progress is made.

4. Focus on the What and Release the How 

International Quality of Life Month

Take your hands off the wheel. Ask yourself in what ways are you attempting to control the outcome? Once you know the “what”,  let it go! So many of my clients get stuck wanting to know the ‘how’ of things. Here’s the thing about how: God/Universe/Spirit (GUS) knows the best way to accomplish your big goals. Have you ever wanted something and it arrived in a completely different way than you expected? That’s the power of the Universe. Be clear on your what and let the how unveil itself. That doesn’t mean you sit on the couch and eat bonbons. It means you take inspired action and follow your internal guidance system.

5.   BE in the Moment and Exercise Radical Gratitude 

International Quality of Life Month

Dwell on what you have right now. Being grateful and appreciating everything you have right in this moment is the key to attracting MORE of what you want into your life. Gratitude heals. Gratitude transforms lives.

If you need help creating your best year yet, I have 10 spots available for a 1:1 “Create My Best Year Yet” intensive. I’m offering this 90-minute coaching package through January 31st, 2018 for only $97. This is a HUGE savings from my typical coaching rates. I’m offering this in honor of International Quality of Life Month. Grab your spot here:

Once your payment goes through, you’ll receive an email from me with a link to my schedule and a worksheet we’ll use during our time together.



Here’s a great article with 4 Tips to Stop Procrastination by my friend, Paul Stevens-Fulbrook over at TeacherofSci:


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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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16 replies
  1. Joyce Hansen
    Joyce Hansen says:

    Love the idea of having an International Quality of Life month. We tend to be fixated on things from a US perspective, and it’s nice to see that quality of life applied to everyone who lives on the planet. I recently had to put a program together on short notice. I wasn’t aware of what I had done until I read your point about “Focus on the what and let go of the how.” Worked like a charm.Thanks for a great list of insights, Tandy.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Awwww. I’m so glad that the FOCUS advice inspired you to get your program together in short order. I’m sure it went well.

  2. Rachel Lavern
    Rachel Lavern says:

    I like your list Tandy. I have never heard of “International Quality of Life Month”. Oh well, we have so many days in the United States that we give special meaning to, don’t we. I can say that I’m taking a closer look at 5-HTP as a sleep-promoting compound and the benefits it may have for sleep, health, and quality of life.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Rachel, we do have a lot of special days here in the US, don’t we?!? Nice – I’m glad you are finding something like 5-HTP to help your quality of life. Is there a particular brand you are taking?

  3. Meghan
    Meghan says:

    Awesome and inspirational, especially on a Monday morning! I’ll be bookmarking your article so I can refer to it again and again. Your advice and tips are what I needed to hear today—and nearly every week. I found myself thinking “so true” many times. Sometimes we just need a bit of motivation and perspective—and you have me those gifts, so thank you!

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Thank you so very much for your kind words, Meghan. I’m honored that you find value from my articles and inspiration.

  4. Reba Linker
    Reba Linker says:

    Love your say yes and say no lists, Tandy. It is so true that these important life decisions become habits that will support or detract from your desired quality of life. Sooo important! Thank you!

  5. Claudette
    Claudette says:

    Oh Tandy, I read this and think of my friend who is fighting for her life with cancer. She so wants to live. WHY? Because she’s not done.
    Reminding myself of my WHY is what keeps me going, when I’m discouraged with my work, feel stuck in a relationship, wondering if this is the right path for me or not.
    I know GUS is there to guide me and trust the process. Looking at each day as a gift, never being 100% certain that tomorrow will be there has helped me to stay focused on what’s most important. Sure, there will be days where I won’t get much work done and that’s fine. I’m OK with that.
    Thanks for this reminder.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Amen, Claudette! We all get reminders from time to time about our path, don’t we!?! GUS is always there for us. We just have to listen:-) When I was going through cancer treatments, I definitely trusted that GUS would get me through and that my WHY was bigger than cancer. I’m sure the same is true for your friend going through cancer right now.

  6. Candess M. Campbell
    Candess M. Campbell says:

    Tandy I see how helpful it would be when someone is stuck to have a coaching session with you. Your positive and supportive message shines through. The journal questions are powerful and can be enlightening, but even journaling may be too much for some without support. Your own experience is so empowering!


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