Self-love and self-care are my community themes this month. After all, February is all about love, right!?! The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. This month, I’m going to share self-love and self-care tips to help you remember your magnificence!


Today, we’re talking about how family caregiving can hurt you and the things you need to be aware of. Whether you are a caregiver or not, this message is for you! There are sooooo many things about taking care of family that you need to be aware of. For a comprehensive look at all aspects of giving care, grab my book, Healing Through the Chaos: Practical Caregiving.

As I reflect on my time as a caregiver, I realized that I’ve been taking care of other people since I was 13 years old. Here’s a video about my caregiving journey and the three things I learned around self-care and self-love.

Three things to be aware of include:

  1. Asking for help. We talked about this a few days ago.
  2. Practicing self-care
  3. Establishing boundaries.

So many of us have relationships that we’d like to change in some way.  We teach people how to treat us. Click To Tweet If you are being treated in a way that you don’t like, create boundaries in the relationship. When I started my meditation practice in 2002, I put a sign on my door, closed it and wouldn’t answer the door until I was done. My kids started knocking, putting notes under the door and basically tried anything they could to get my attention. It didn’t work. Eventually, they learned to leave me alone when I’m meditating.

When I was taking care of my parents, I allowed their ‘stuff’ to spew over from the room we set up for them in our home to the dining room, kitchen and such. My parents were hoarders…big ones. I didn’t establish boundaries at first because I felt bad that they lost their home, their independence and basically everything. However, it ate at me. I finally set loving boundaries and told them what would happen if their stuff stayed in the other areas of the house. I followed up on these consequences and it only took a few times before they realized I meant business. I didn’t have another problem after that.

Creating boundaries is a way of loving ourselves. We are saying YES to our life. Like the feature picture here suggests: Please stop putting your needs last. Your needs matter and you deserve to be as happy as everyone else!

It’s your turn: Where do you need to create more boundaries in your life? When are you going to take action? Please comment below!


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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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