Drop the Rules:
What cooking teaches us about healing
As we near the end of our 7 part Drop the Rules series, I hope you are learning some new tips to help with healing through grief and through life in general.
Part 1, we discussed forgiveness.
Part 2 , we discussed finding the blessings through every experience.
Part 3, we discussed the importance of support.
Part 4, we touched on the importance of recharging our batteries.
Part 5, we discussed nature’s role in facilitating healing.
Part 6, we touched on change.
Cooking. This was something my daughter Amanda and my mom (her Grandma) shared. Her Grandma was wheelchair bound and couldn’t cook in the kitchen. The thing she could and did do is teach and bond with Amanda.
Amanda has always liked cooking and that was their ‘thing’ to do together during our care giving days and while her grandma and grandpa lived with us. After her grandma’s passing, Amanda didn’t want to cook.
Fast-forward, Amanda revealed to me that she loved cooking but felt bad that she was cooking without her grandma there. She felt that her cooking experience wasn’t the same. Thanksgiving 2013. Oh.My.Goodness. Amanda was back in full force!
What Amanda learned by being in the kitchen most of Thanksgiving week was that cooking was a way to honor her relationship with her grandma. She made homemade cranberry sauce; which was one of her grandma’s favorite things.
With so much going on in the kitchen, she brought a chair and plopped herself in the middle; watching everything. I couldn’t help but feel my mom; her grandma, in the chair in these moments watching Amanda and beaming from ear to ear. Amanda learned that she honors her grandma by doing the thing that they used to do together. That is healing.
IT’S YOUR TURN: Is there a routine you and a loved one share(d)? I know it may take time to be at a place where you can do these activities alone or with someone else. Please comment below and share what routine you shared/share with a loved one and what it means to you. Then, if it’s something you currently do with them, pick up the phone and tell them how much you appreciate them!
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Tandy Elisala, MA, CPSC, ACT, CHt, TFT-fAlg, is founder and CEO of Center for Inspiring Greatness.™ Tandy is a Care Giving Expert, Certified Professional Success Coach, Author and Consultant. She is certified in various alternative-healing modalities. Tandy has 25 years’ proven experience as a corporate executive, speaker and coach. Tandy was a full-time caregiver for both parents simultaneously while kicking cancer’s butt a third time and raising three children as a single parent. Tandy lives in Phoenix, Arizona, with her three kids, two dogs, and three cats. Tandy’s book, Healing Through the Chaos: Practical Care-Giving is available for pre-order at http://www.tandyelisala.com
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