When faced with seemingly insurmountable circumstances and even managing daily life, here are nine (9) questions to ask yourself:
1. Is everything you say, do, and believe bring out your greatness? Make it happen.
2. What will you be remembered for? Is this what you want to be remembered for?
3. Are you at peace with everyone in your life that matters? If not, get there today.
4. Do you use your voice? Do you feel like you have a voice? If not, why are you allowing others to take your voice away?
5. Do you use your internal guidance system? Your internal guidance system already knows what you want and need. We need to listen for the answer. When asking yourself a question, the answer is what you get in the first 30 seconds. Really! What we do is get into a cycle of analysis paralysis and over think things. When, what we need to be doing is listening to that inner voice. Remember this next time and go with the answer you get in the first 30 seconds.
6. When dealing with upsetting matters…
Is this situation something I have control over? If yes, take action. If no, is this situation something I have influence over?
Let’s talk about influence for a moment. A coaching client was taking care of his best friend as she was going through late stage cancer. He hated that she wasn’t following doctors’ orders and needed help getting through the situation. He loved his friend dearly yet didn’t approve of how she chose to live her life; likely causing premature death. In this situation, he didn’t have control but he did have influence. He shared what he could live with, expressed love and respect for her and her decisions yet he got clear on his boundaries and communicated what he was and wasn’t willing to do.
7. Here’s another question. Is this situation worth getting upset about and taking up residence in your head?
8. Is it worth your physical health such as blood pressure, illness or dis-ease and what is the situation costing you emotionally?
9. What are you gaining from the situation? There’s a deep question. Really think about this. The immediate reaction I get when asking this question is that there is no possible way anyone would ‘want’ xxx. I agree. There is a difference between wanting the problem as it has manifested and subconsciously sabotaging yourself because of a deep unmet need. Until this is brought to the surface, the cycle will continue.
I’m interested to hear your thoughts on this topic. Which question resonates with you the most and why?
Tandy Elisala, MA, CPSC, ACT, CHt, TFT-fAlg, is Founder and CEO of Center for Inspiring Greatness. ™ Tandy is a Care Giving Expert, Certified Professional Success Coach, Author and Consultant. She is certified in various alternative-healing modalities. Tandy has 25 years’ proven experience as a corporate executive, speaker and coach. Tandy was a full-time caregiver for both parents simultaneously while kicking cancer’s butt a third time and raising three children as a single parent. Tandy lives in Phoenix, Arizona, with her three kids, two dogs, and three cats. Tandy’s book, Healing Through the Chaos: Practical Care-Giving is available for pre-order at http://www.tandyelisala.com.
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