9 Questions to Ponder During Challenging Days


When faced with seemingly insurmountable circumstances and even managing  daily life, here are nine (9) questions to ask yourself:


1.  Is everything you say, do, and believe bring out your greatness? Make it happen.


2.  What will you be remembered for? Is this what you want to be remembered for?


3. Are you at peace with everyone in your life that matters? If not, get there today.


4. Do you use your voice? Do you feel like you have a voice? If not, why are you allowing others to take your voice away?


5. Do you use your internal guidance system? Your internal guidance system already knows what you want and need. We need to listen for the answer. When asking yourself a question, the answer is what you get in the first 30 seconds. Really! What we do is get into a cycle of analysis paralysis and over think things. When, what we need to be doing is listening to that inner voice. Remember this next time and go with the answer you get in the first 30 seconds.


6. When dealing with upsetting matters…


Is this situation something I have control over? If yes, take action. If no, is this situation something I have influence over?

Let’s talk about influence for a moment. A coaching client was taking care of his best friend as she was going through late stage cancer. He hated that she wasn’t following doctors’ orders and needed help getting through the situation. He loved his friend dearly yet didn’t approve of how she chose to live her life; likely causing premature death. In this situation, he didn’t have control but he did have influence.  He shared what he could live with, expressed love and respect for her and her decisions yet he got clear on his boundaries and communicated what he was and wasn’t willing to do.


7. Here’s another question.  Is this situation worth getting upset about and taking up residence in your head?


8. Is it worth your physical health such as blood pressure, illness or dis-ease and what is the situation costing you emotionally?


9. What are you gaining from the situation? There’s a deep question. Really think about this.  The immediate reaction I get when asking this question is that there is no possible way anyone would ‘want’ xxx. I agree. There is a difference between wanting the problem as it has manifested and subconsciously sabotaging yourself because of a deep unmet need. Until this is brought to the surface, the cycle will continue.



I’m interested to hear your thoughts on this topic. Which question resonates with you the most and why?

Tandy Elisala Bio Pic

Tandy Elisala, MA, CPSC, ACT, CHt, TFT-fAlg, is Founder and CEO of Center for Inspiring Greatness.  ™ Tandy is a Care Giving Expert, Certified Professional Success Coach, Author and Consultant. She is certified in various alternative-healing modalities. Tandy has 25 years’ proven experience as a corporate executive, speaker and coach.  Tandy was a full-time caregiver for both parents simultaneously while kicking cancer’s butt a third time and raising three children as a single parent. Tandy lives in Phoenix, Arizona, with her three kids, two dogs, and three cats. Tandy’s book, Healing Through the Chaos: Practical Care-Giving is available for pre-order at http://www.tandyelisala.com.


© Copyright 2013, Tandy Elisala, http://www.centerforinspiringgreatness.com and http://www.tandyelisala.com. Permission is granted to copy, forward, or distribute this article for non-commercial use only, as long as this copyright byline and bio, in totality, is maintained in all duplications, copies, and link references.  For reprint permission for any commercial use, in any form of media, please contact Tandy at tandy@tandyelisala.com.

Follow me

Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

Join our Facebook community at http://www.facebook.com/groups/EmpoweredFamilyCaregiver

©Copyright 2003-Present All rights reserved
Follow me
1 reply

Trackbacks & Pingbacks

  1. […] Think about when you are going to have the opportunity to just be still… just be… In another blog post, I offer 9 questions to ponder during challenging days.     […]

Leave a Reply

Want to join the discussion?
Feel free to contribute!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *