7 part series: Drop the Rules
The beginning and end of each year marks a common time for goal setting. While this is wildly important, this series is about something virtually everyone experiences yet, not as many people discuss. This is about giving you tools to release grief so you can experience greater success, peace, and joy in life.
Grief takes many forms. You can grieve for a number of reasons including:
· Job loss
· Loss of health
· Loss of home
· Loss of friendships
· Loss of freedom
· Loss of relationships
· Death of a loved one
· Loss of innocence
· Pet loss
· Loss of car
· Loss of income
· Loss of a person they were before an injury or illness
The list goes on…
To truly experience long-term life success, we must release that which no longer serves us. In this 7 part series, you’ll learn different perspectives on healing through grief with exercises to help you; whether now or in the future. At the end of this series, you’ll have 7 new practical and effective tools for your life tool kit.
When you lose something or someone, people are quick to offer advice or words of wisdom. Often times, these people unknowingly make you feel worse. I have been guilty of this myself. Additionally, there are unwritten ‘rules’ about how you are ‘supposed’ to act after a loss. Does this sound familiar:
· Get over it
· Time heals all wounds
· You’ll find someone else
· It wasn’t meant to be
· There’s more fish in the sea or there’s other …
· Stop crying
· No sense worrying about it if there’s nothing you can do about it
· Keep busy and you won’t think about it
· You needed a new….
· The list goes on…
An important distinction to make is, no matter what adversity you experience, you get through it. You never get over it. Trying to get over something is futile. Still, you try and try. Without giving yourself time to grieve in the way that is right for you, you resist the very thing you are trying to do: get through the situation and heal.
In this 7 part series, you’ll learn:
– The best gift you can give yourself
– How to turn silver into gold
– Just how important your voice is
– How you car is your lifeline
– Why hugging a tree is important
– The six letter word that changes everything
– What cooking teaches us about healing
Here’s to dropping the rules!
Dropping the rules:
The best gift you can give yourself – Day 1
Many times when we lose someone, we think of ways to get back at the person or make him or her suffer. We mistakenly think that getting revenge in some way will make us feel better.
This thinking serves to feed the anger, sadness, etc… We also think that forgiveness is about the other person. We may think that by forgiving the other person, we are condoning the behavior. This isn’t the case.
I challenge you to think about forgiveness differently. Consider the possibility that forgiveness is about YOUR growth and well-being. It is a gift you give yourself…for in doing so; you release negative feelings about the situation. Of course, you may remember the situation and this is okay. I posted a blog about what letting go IS and what it ISN’T. Feel free to refer to this and see if it helps see things differently. Here are a few excerpts from this article:
- To “let go” does not mean to stop caring. It means I can’t do it for someone else.
- To “let go” is not to cut myself off. It is the realization that I can’t control another.
- To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences
After all, why would you let someone that doesn’t deserve it occupy precious space in your head?
By forgiving, you let the situation and/or person go; opening up space for more good in your life. You deserve all the good in the world!
In a previous post, forgiveness and healing, I offer a powerful visualization exercise to facilitate forgiveness. I invite you to try this exercise. Let me know what you experience. You deserve ALL THE BEST life has to offer.
“When I know better I do better.” ~ Maya Angelou
IT’S YOUR TURN: What person or situation do you need to release negative feelings about? Today is the perfect day to release yourself from these feelings and allow all the good you deserve to come forth. Please comment below!
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