5 Tips to Conquer the Holidays and Actually Feel Blissful


Does the thought of the holidays stress you out? You already have a full schedule and this time of year can bring out the best and worst in you with all the additional events, cooking, planning, shopping, and generally making sure everything goes as planned. I’m sure you’ll agree that the holidays can sometimes feel like you are swimming upstream without a paddle. This article shares 5 tips to conquer the holidays, show it who is boss and actually feel blissful.


5 Tips to Conquer the Holidays and Actually Feel Blissful


  1. Master Your Time.

“For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.” – Lily Tomlin

One way we find ourselves in overwhelm is over-committing to things. This can cause overwhelm pretty quickly and thus creating a cycle of feeling out of control, frustrated and feeling like you need to work overtime to get everything done.

Here are three tips to master your time and focus on the right things during the holidays:

  1. Take a few minutes each day and determine what must get done today or nothing else matters. Another way to think about this to think of your to-do list and put all the balls in the air. Now, imagine the high priority balls are glass and the low priority balls are rubber. Which ones do you juggle to ensure only the glass balls stay in the air?

2.  Write down your priorities. Getting everything on paper (or your technology device) and out of your head can relieve stress and help you focus.

3. Remember, NO is a complete sentence. Here’s a powerful article with 25 ways to say no with grace and more ease.

For all my family caregivers out there, here’s a great article by my friends at AARP that will help you, too.

2. Plan Ahead.

Sometimes, when we have so much to do, we procrastinate. We may get okay results by waiting until the last minute to do something but at what expense to our health? When we procrastinate, we create a vibration of delay. Is that the energy you want to create?

Take your to-do list and create a schedule and put it on your calendar. If you have a significant other, discuss the list and how you can work together and balance the load (or at least make it more like 70/30 instead of 90/10).

The truth is when we plan ahead of time to do something important; we create space for more good to come to us. We are also more productive. Bonus!

If you are one of the additional 440,000 people traveling this holiday season, here are some travel tips for you.


  1. Practice Gratitude.

“Gratitude is the foundation for developing your greatness and is key to living your life with passion, peace, and joy.” ~ Tandy Elisala

Gratitude is a big theme over the holidays and for it to really impact your life, it needs to become more than just a holiday word.

When we practice giving thanks for all we are and all we have we give ourselves the chance to see life as a blessing. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

When we practice giving thanks for all we are and all we have we give ourselves the chance to see life as a blessing. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope. Click To Tweet

Here are three ways to incorporate gratitude into your life

and help create better memories:

  1. Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things you are thankful for.


  1. Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine. Go around the room and have everyone share what they are grateful for each day. Alternatively, you and your partner can each share one thing you are grateful for about each other.



  1. Create a gratitude jar practice. There are all kinds of ways you can do this and make it fun for the family. When my kids were growing up, everyone wrote down one thing they were grateful for each day and put it in the jar and we had a monthly gratitude family meeting where we took turns reading each one and shared more about the experiences. This was a powerful tradition for our family.


  1. Exercise Self-Care.

This sounds simple and you logically know self-care is important. Maintain your self-care practices during the holidays to minimize stress and enjoying each moment. Here are 40 simple self-care ideas to consider:

If you are into astrology and humor, here’s a great article for you to help you get through the holidays the cosmic way!


  1. Create Family Traditions.

What family traditions do you have each year? For us, it was the homemade cinnamon rolls on Christmas morning. It was church service and everyone opening one present Christmas Eve. Whether it’s food, religious, family photos, game, activity or any other traditions, make that a focal point.

If you like Christmas lights, here are the top six places to go in the country.

If you don’t have holiday family traditions, now is the time to create one! Ask your older relatives about their life. Documenting and sharing life stories is a great way to create a legacy and engage the family. Here’s an article where I share 9 ways to engage and preserve your family legacy (and more):


Get your hands and eyes on this free quick-start guide to conquer overwhelm and start feeling better tomorrow!

Because you deserve to feel more at peace! 

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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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