3 Questions To Ask Yourself As You Plan 2018 (and Tandy’s Top 10 Non-Negotiables)

3 Questions To Ask Yourself As You Plan 2018

(and Tandy’s Top 10 Non-Negotiables)

If you are like most people, you’ve thought about your 2018 goals (note that I didn’t say “resolutions”) and have a plan for your 2018 goals and dreams. In case you are still working on your goals, here are 3 questions to ask yourself as you plan 2018. I’ve also included my top 10 non-negotiables list. More on that shortly.



First Question to Ask Yourself

What were my highs and lows of 2017 and what did I learn?  Taking time to really think about your highs and lows is important so you don’t repeat the lows and so you can move forward in the new year with new energy. Documenting what you’ve learned helps you release and let it go and move ahead with fresh eyes, ears, and heart.

Documenting what you've learned helps you release and let it go and move ahead with fresh eyes, ears, and heart. Click To Tweet

Second Question to Ask Yourself 

What HABITS, learning, and actions do I need to integrate to feel the way I want to feel? Habits are the key to success. What habits in 2017 served you well and which ones didn’t go so well? Maybe you watched more news/tv than you wanted or perhaps you didn’t integrate self-care into your routine. What do you need to learn in order to achieve what you want this year? How do you want to feel on December 31st, 2018? Think about your year in terms of how you want to consistently feel.

Third Question to Ask Yourself 

What habits did NOT serve me well last year and what am I committed to changing to ensure I achieve my goals? This is where non-negotiables come into play. Here’s how this played out for me this year:

  1. I checked my email 20 times a day. Not very productive. I realized that responding to other people’s priorities wasn’t helping me get closer to my goals. Duh.
  2. I let other priorities be scheduled when I was working out. This isn’t very smart if I want to develop healthier habits.
  3. I would sometimes let my filing pile up. A disorganized space is a disorganized mind.

For others, their challenges may be:

  1. Not getting enough sleep.
  2. Being around negative people.
  3. Not charging your worth.
  4. Always being on social media and letting it run your day.
  5. Not taking time away for the things that matter most.


Having non-negotiables is a way to ensure you are exercising your positive habit muscle that will help you stay in alignment. Click To Tweet

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Create a Non -Negotiable List 

Whatever the challenges, I encourage you to create your non-negotiable list. This list should challenge you and be specific about the things that YOU are open, willing, and committed to changing. We all want to be successful. Having non-negotiables is a way to ensure you are exercising your positive habit muscle that will help you stay in alignment. Here are my 2018 non-negotiables: 

  1. Self-Care Practices Come First. I will start and end my day with self-care.
  2. I will stop using technology after 9:30 pm. I won’t open email or social media until AFTER self-care.
  3. I am investing in my development which includes reading at least one book per month and have a learning plan for each month.
  4. I only say YES to the YES’S. Doing this keeps me in alignment and ensures the right things come into my life.
  5. I am keeping my space organized. A clear space is a clear mind.
  6. I am exercising at least three times per week. This will help me get and stay healthy and strong.
  7. I will check email no more than 3 times per day. This helps me stay focused on the right things.
  8. I consistently get enough quality sleep. Getting enough sleep helps me stay positive, focused, and energized so I make the right decisions.
  9. I will spend time outside daily. Nature is healing and is a great way to recharge.
  10. I am continuing to take time to nurture relationships. Family, friends, colleagues, JV partners, affiliates, clients, and biz partners are all important to me.

What are YOUR non-negotiables? 


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Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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8 replies
  1. Rachel Lavern
    Rachel Lavern says:

    You only have three questions? I’m jealous. I think I listed approximately 40 questions in my blog this week. Oh well, the point is go get readers to be introspective and make course corrections where necessary.;)

    Great list.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      You’re too funny, Rachel! You are right on – it’s about getting readers to be introspective and empower them to take inspired action.

  2. Candess M. Campbell, PhD
    Candess M. Campbell, PhD says:

    Tandy, Meghan McCain said on Twitter recently “2017 kicked my ass.” That is my story too! I have inventoried, made adjustments and as most of us am now doing what I know I should do which is rest and play more and work less. What I love about life is we have cycles. Already 2018 has been really good. I love your non-negotiable list!

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Yay, Candess! I love that 2018 is off to a great start for you. I can say the same for me:-) I imagine Meghan McCain’s 2017 was definitely a challenging year with her father’s cancer diagnosis. I love John McCain! Play more and work less is something I’m adopting too.

  3. Joyce Hansen
    Joyce Hansen says:

    It was such a hectic end-of-the-year that I’m just starting to catch up. I haven’t had the time yet to do a 2017 review, but I love your 10 non-negotiables and I’m going to adopt them for a better 2018.

  4. Tamuria
    Tamuria says:

    So right, Tandy, it’s great to start the new year be revising what you have learned from the previous one and using that information to make this year even better. So true too, that documenting what you have learned helps you release and let go. I’m still working on my non-negotiables – there are so many things I’m excited about doing and it’s hard to choose one over the other. Towards the end of last year, I spent a bit of time thinking about this and tried to imagine how I’d feel at the end of my life is I didn’t do this one or that. Working out what you would regret not doing the most helps sort out which goals you really need to focus on.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      I love your approach to this, Tamuria. Thinking about what you would REGRET is a huge way to prioritize. Most people at the end of life say they most regret the things they DIDN’T DO! I appreciate your comments.


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