When we compare ourselves to others, we are limiting ourselves and our abilities. We aren’t able to shine our light as brightly as we are here to do.  Stop the madness! Low-self esteem stems from feeling inferior. Self esteem comes from how we compare ourselves to others.


Remember, everyone has a story. We’ve all been through tough stuff. If we were all in a room and threw our problems in the center and had the opportunity to take someone else’s stuff, we’d probably take our ‘problems’ back.  Think about the Jones’. We drive by and love so and so’s home, car, boat, ATV’s and such in the driveways. What we don’t know is that they may be married to their mortgage or up to their ears in monthly payments and have ZERO invested in their retirement. They may be absolutely miserable. They may also be wildly successful and that’s amazing. We NEVER know what someone else  has been through. I’ve been through a LOT in my life, yet, I wouldn’t trade my life for anyone else’s life. Everyone goes through ‘stuff’….everyone.

When you are feeling down, ask friends and family for feedback on what they love about you! You can also ask what they like about you or what they are thankful for about you.  Write down what they say and refer to it daily. Hearing from another person our strengths and positive qualities helps to build a more positive image of ourselves.

Here’s a video I recorded for you about the comparison game.

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It’s YOUR turn: Have you ever or do you now compare yourself to others in some way? What strategies have you used to stop comparing yourself with others? What will you do today to shift your thinking and forget about everyone else? Please comment below!

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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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