13 Ways to a Happier Day

13 Ways to a Happier Day


As I mentioned in my last blog, I recognize being an optimist can be easier said than done! I experience greater happiness and peace when I look at things from a positive standpoint. There are a lot of studies about happiness and the important role ‘being happy’ has on our lives.

Whatever the cause for down or bad feelings, here are strategies I find effective to lift my mood. These strategies, in random order, include:

1.     Eat chocolate! Did I get your attention with this one? Small doses of chocolate can help lift your mood. Can we say Dopamine?!

2.     Take deep breaths. Breathing slowly in through your mouth and out through your mouth five (5) times can help calm you down. This particular exercise has helped me countless times when I’m driving.  When someone drives too slow, drives too fast or is inconsiderate of others on the road, cuts people off or is down right dangerous, it can be extremely difficult to keep our emotions in check; especially when we have someplace to be! Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. I think you will be surprised at how peaceful you will feel.

3.     Take a moment to think about things you are thankful for. Pick a few of these things, close your eyes and really FEEL how it feels to be thankful. Stay with these feelings until your eyes and body fill up with gratitude.

4.     Imagine, pretend or otherwise surround yourself with the color blue. The color blue is associated with calm and peace. Think blue!

5.     Listen to upbeat, positive music. Check out my website here for a list of 168 songs to put you in a good mood.

6.     Read upbeat, positive books, poems or inspiring stories.

7.     Say affirmations that promote happiness. One affirmation I use is: “ I am thankful and grateful now for all the happy feelings I feel right now.” Another is: “ I am so thankful and grateful for being happy and feeling happy thoughts. Every experience is a positive one and I give thanks now for my many blessings.”  Please contact me if you would like additional affirmations. Check out my blog here for more affirmations. 

8.     Avoid getting drunk. The day after someone drinks excessively, his or her bodies have a difficult time compensating for the dopamine (Dopamine is the chemical contributing to good moods) created in excess the day before.

9.     Exercise…. I know – I know. Listing exercise right after avoiding excessive alcohol is cruel and unusual punishment:-)

10.Smile – just smile. If you have to smile when you feel like crap, do it. Fake it until you make it! Smiling at others helps put us in a better mood. Sometimes at work, I would have a difficult time being happy. During these times, I would want nothing more than to yell or hide in my office. I found when I forced myself to walk around and smile at everyone, before long, I was in a lighter mood!

11.Spend time doing something you enjoy.

12.Think about your favorite people in the world that always seem to be able to lift your spirits. Now, pick up the phone and call them!

13.Do something nice for someone. This can be a random act of kindness such as letting someone go in front of you in a grocery check out, letting someone else get that coveted parking spot you were after, opening doors for someone or something along these lines. These are just a few examples of how you can spread kindness. I’m sure you can think about a time when someone did something nice like this for you. More than this, I find when doing something nice for someone anonymously, I feel good all over and can’t help but smile inside. Some things I’ve done for others without them knowing include:

a.     Paying for a meal

b.     Paying for meals of military men and women in uniform

c.      Paying for a medical bill for someone who needs help

d.     Paying for someone’s groceries

e.     Paying a drive through order for the person behind me

f.      Bringing product (diapers, food, etc…) for people at work and leaving it on their desk when others aren’t around.

Any act of random kindness, no matter how large or small, promotes well-being.

Ultimately, I want you to recognize that our external environment “shouldn’t” make us feel good or bad. We alone control our physical, emotional and mental well-being. Giving someone else power over our lives is handing way too much power over our lives. Think about the driving situation I described above. When I slow down enough to realize that dump, stupid or ignorant drivers don’t deserve my energy; I am able to put things in perspective. Own your power! Remember you are a magnificent spirit full of love and light and you deserve to be happy!

I hope you find one or more useful tips to help you keep the glass full and be in a good mood.





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Tandy Elisala, MA, CPSC, ACT, CHt, TFT-fAlg, is Founder and CEO of Center for Inspiring Greatness.  ™ Tandy is a Care Giving Expert, Certified Professional Success Coach, Author and Consultant. She is certified in various alternative-healing modalities. Tandy has 25 years’ proven experience as a corporate executive, speaker and coach.  Tandy was a full-time caregiver for both parents simultaneously while kicking cancer’s butt a third time and raising three children as a single parent. Tandy lives in Phoenix, Arizona, with her three kids, two dogs, and three cats. Tandy’s book, Healing Through the Chaos: Practical Care-Giving is available for pre-order at http://www.tandyelisala.com.


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Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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9 replies
    • TandyMain
      TandyMain says:

      That’s awesome Sophie. Exercise puts you in a good mood and helps overall health: a win-win! Thanks for your comments.

  1. Pixie Willow
    Pixie Willow says:

    Im a big fan of random acts of kindness, I do them all the time for others, its a great feeling to know you can help x

    • TandyMain
      TandyMain says:

      Francene, thanks for your comments. Imagine what the world will be when more thoughtful and kind acts override anything else!?!


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