Thrive in Life: Set Your Priorities and Ditch the Rest

In this week’s #ThriveOCourse with Arianna Huffington, we are learning about setting your priorities and ditching the rest. Think about what it is you spend your time on every day and think about whether this is in line with what’s really important to you.

For example, Arianna had on her project list to learn German. It kept staying on her to do list and she finally decided to take it off her list completely. Does it mean she will never come back to it? No. It does mean she opened up the energy and space for what is important to her. Have you ever had something on your project list that never seems to get done? I sure have! For the longest time, I had learn (relearn) Spanish, take an improv class and start a membership site for my coaching business on my list. I felt so empowered removing these things off my list… for now. It's such a freeing feeling when you really get clear about what's important and remove the rest. #ThriveOCourse Click To Tweet

I’ve talked before about the importance of setting priorities and only setting 3 priorities for we can only truly achieve a few things with excellence at a time. Whether it’s 3, 4 or 5 priorities, take time to write down what’s important to you. My top 3 priorities are:

1. My physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

2. My Family.

3. My connection with community, colleagues, clients, and self.

My health is an absolute #1 priority for without this, nothing else matters. My family will always be a top priority for me and spending quality time with them is critical for my soul and well-being. My connections are wildly important to me and connection is my 2015 focus word. All these things feed in together for me this year. It doesn’t have to be that way for you though.

So, what are your top 3-5 priorities? Now, here’s the bigger question… how are you spending your time every day? Are you spending time on that which is a top priority for you? If not, I challenge you to track how you are spending you time and make small shifts towards that which  you do want.

I have a 24 hour wheel that’s a great visual for me to document how I spend my time. I recommend tracking your time spent for a week and seeing how aligned you are with your biggest priorities. Maybe that extra hour in the office or on social media isn’t that important and can be spent getting extra sleep, meditating, spending time with family and friends or in some other way. Some days are different depending on appointments and such but generally speaking my schedule looks something like this:

11 hours = sleep, 2 hours = meditation/spirit work, 2 hours = doctors, 4 hours = work, 5 hours = learning/family/pet time.

Lastly, as you evaluate your biggest priorities and how you spend your time, also think about WHO you spend your time with? We are the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with. Are these people lifting you up or bringing you down? Click To TweetIf they are bringing you down, it’s time to let them off your train and send them on their way with love. You deserve the absolute best and I encourage you to love yourself enough to set boundaries here and only spend time with people that encourage you and your goals. This is your one, beautiful life. Make the most of it!

It’s your turn: What are your top priorities? What shifts can you identify that you need to do to spend more time on these priorities? Are there people you need to let go of and when will you do this? Please share below!


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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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10 replies
  1. Mitch Tublin
    Mitch Tublin says:

    When someone creates a long To-Do List and then they
    cannot get through it they get depressed and start to feel like
    they have so much To-Do and get nothing done. Better to wipe
    everything off the list and start fresh with two or three things and
    add nothing else to the list until these are taken care of.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      A 24 hour wheel is a visual circle with 24 equal lines and you account for every hour on the wheel to document how you spend your time. My WP blog has been having issues with me adding pics to my blog lately so I couldn’t post the picture of the one I’m using.

  2. Jessica
    Jessica says:

    I listened to week one of Thrive and then decided to start over when I’m done with my 6-week business trip, so I guess that was one action I took off my priority list. 🙂

  3. Sue Painter
    Sue Painter says:

    Tandy, I totally agree that it’s very freeing to focus on your top few things and let go the rest. What’s important will rise to the top anyway. I spent 3 years focusing on walking and letting everything else take a secondary role. Even business, even though I worked a lot. I think focusing down gives you real staying power.

    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Indeed. Focusing down on what’s truly important definitely provides real staying power and helps you get things done.


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