THE TRUTH ABOUT PROBLEMS THAT WILL MAKE YOU THINK DIFFERENTLY ABOUT LIFE

The Truth About Problems That Will Make You Think Differently About Life

The Truth About Problems That Will Make You Think Differently About Life

Do you ever wonder what your life would be like without problems? As we grow, our problems change (hopefully get upgraded) yet we still have problems. In this article, I’m sharing the truth about problems that will make you think differently about problems and life and 3 steps to solving any problem. Let’s get to it!

THE TRUTH ABOUT PROBLEMS THAT WILL MAKE YOU THINK DIFFERENTLY ABOUT LIFE

We can measure progress in life by the nature of our problems 

When we are young, our problems may include what to wear to school, what classes to take, what friends to spend time with. Then, we may be faced with problems like drugs, alcohol, bullying and/or depression. As adults, our problems ‘graduate’ to making money, paying bills, debt, investing, home ownership, changing careers, relationship issues, health challenges, and the list goes on and on.

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Perhaps a problem you have is figuring out what color dream car to get or who to hire for that dream kitchen remodel or where to go on vacation. Problems can be GOOD. A recent problem I had was figuring out which swimsuit to wear when going swimming Christmas Eve day. Yes, it was warm enough to swim over the holidays… in Arizona.

Funny story about problems. When my daughter was recovering from knee surgery, she complained that her butt hurt from sitting so long. She would say, “My butt hurts. First world problems.”  I share that story to show you that our problems are very much based on where we are at in life. As we conquer one problem, we move on to another and another. The day you don’t have ANY problems is the day you are dead. 

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If you go year after year or decade after decade with the SAME problems, I encourage you to assess why this is the case and what you can do to solve that problem so you can upgrade to another problem.

 

Reframing our problems allows us to put them in perspective 

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When I was taking care of my parents full-time, there were many days where both parents had appointments on different sides of town. Often, our days started early and it would take 30 minutes to get them into the car and actually put the car in reverse! One day, in particular, I remember taking my mom to a cancer radiation appointment. We were running about 10-15 minutes late and I was stressing out and letting stupid drivers on the freeway affect my mood.

I remember looking over at my mom while we were getting off the freeway and she was bouncing her leg to the song on the radio. She wasn’t stressed out at all about being late. I made a decision to BE in the moment and enjoy the song too. Reframing our problems gives us a new perspective. If we stay in the energy of the problem, we can’t be in the moment. Being in the moment is what brings us joy, peace, and a higher vibration.

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Next time you feel stuck in feelings of worry or fear, make a decision to find something in that moment to be grateful for or find beauty in. This is the easiest way to reframe our thoughts. Start small and practice often and notice how your problems can feel lighter and lighter.

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3 Steps To Solving Any Problem 

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In Mayo Oshin’s recent article on Medium, he shares Elon Musk’s 3 step process to solving problems. I’d like to expound on these steps with additional thoughts.

“If I had an hour to solve a problem, I’d spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and 5 minutes thinking about solutions.”  ~ Albert Einstein

STEP 1: Identify and define your current assumptions 

This step includes identifying the problem you want to solve and assumptions you have about this problem. An example of this may be a problem with finding time to exercise.

Problem Example: I’m overweight and I’m having health issues. I want to release weight.

Assumptions Example: I know I need to exercise but I’m having trouble thinking of how to incorporate exercise into my schedule. I’m already busy and have a full day. Exercise is hard work and I’ll have to exercise every day to see results. I need 8 hours of sleep and can’t afford to lose sleep for exercise. I don’t have money for a gym membership. How am I going to exercise?

STEP 2: Breakdown the problem into its fundamental principles

This step involves asking questions to bust through the assumptions (and possible limiting beliefs). Using the above example, here are the questions I’d ask:

  1. What do you really need to start exercising and reach your health goals?
  2. How can you ease into an exercise plan?
  3. What time do you go to bed and wake up each day? Could you go to bed 1/2 hour or 1 hour earlier and wake up earlier to start your day with exercise?
  4. What resources are available to exercise? YouTube videos, a floor, etc.
  5. I’d also ask, WHY do you want to release weight?

The reason the WHY is important here is that we can want to change to avoid something but long-term success depends on us having a positive reason why we want the change. We want to feel more energy and strength or we want to get off medications. These are the motivations for us long-term.

 

STEP 3: Create new solutions from scratch

You’ve probably heard the saying that the same mind that created a problem isn’t the same mind that can solve the problem. A lot of times, we need a fresh perspective to help get us through problems and find fresh solutions. Think outside the box and develop workable solutions to your problems. This is where a coach can help. A good coach holds the space and trusts in your ability to figure things out.

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REMEMBER:

  1. All problems are temporary.
  2. When one problem ceases, another begins.
  3. Not all problems are bad.
  4. As you grow, your problems are upgraded!
  5. Problems are opportunities.
  6. Sometimes, you need help working through problems, challenges, or life issues. : https://tandyelisala.as.me/?appointmentType=3752863

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Founder and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness
Tandy Elisala is passionate about bringing hope and wholehearted living to people going through cancer and their caregivers. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. She left her 23-year corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously for 2 ½ years. She now teaches what she learned on her journey and how to thrive during and after cancer using the true sources of health and healing: hope and mindset, spiritual connection, relationships, alignment and mind, body healing. Tandy is a multiple best-selling author, radio show host, mother of three grown kids and her precious dog, Roxy. Learn more about Tandy at www.tandyelisala.com.

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6 replies
  1. Joyce Hansen
    Joyce Hansen says:

    As I try to write this response, I could see it as a problem – the cat has demanded to sit in my lap and I have to reach around front and back to reach the keyboard. Yes, it’s temporary, or so I hope, but in the moment there is love. Wonderful suggestions to remind us to stay in the moment, Tandy.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Oh my goodness, Joyce. Real problems going on here – lol. When the cat demands to sit on your lap, you’ve got to go with it or the cat will get more demanding!

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  2. Claudette Chenevert
    Claudette Chenevert says:

    Hi Tandy. What a great post and I love your perspective around problem solving. I especially love step 3: solve the problem from scratch. It allows us to think outside the box and to find alternative ways to fix the problem.
    There is so much insight here. Great post.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Thanks so very much, Claudette. I think step 3 is the most important because we need to think outside the box for solutions. Glad you liked the post!

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  3. Beverley Golden
    Beverley Golden says:

    Thank you for the reminders in this post, Tandy! Especially 1 and 2. “All problems are temporary and when one problem ceases, another begins.” So often we think we are the only ones to have problems in life and make or take everything so personally. We create additional drama and a story that might or might not be true. One thing I have learned through the work I did with Landmark, is to strip things down to the facts, without any colouring added. It looks a lot like the 3 steps you shared which came from Elon Musk, are the same process I’ve learned to use. And yes, we always have the chance to create and recreate in every moment. Our task as humans is to accept that and not wallow in the situation without stepping back to objectively find ways to create something new!

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Thank you so very much for your thoughtful comments, Beverley. I’m glad you liked the reminders in this post. Ahhh, the Landmark days. I remember them! Looking at the facts without our preconceived beliefs and such helps us break things down much easier and faster, doesn’t it? Here’s to a fabulous 2018!

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