Signs You May Not Trust Yourself

Signs You May Not Trust Yourself

Signs You May Not Trust Yourself

Signs You May Not Trust Yourself

Everything rises and falls with leadership. Everything. The toughest person to lead is yourself. Trust really is the foundation to leadership. Character makes trust possible and trust makes leadership possible. This article shares 21 signs that you may not trust yourself and an action plan to strengthen your trust factor.

“Your capacity to lead expands through trust.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

21 signs that you may not trust yourself:

  1. I have a hard time recognizing, understanding, feeling, or believing in my innate value and worth.
  2. I accept the negative, self-rejecting messages that I received growing up.
  3. I think that I could have done something to change or stop the childhood abuse, neglect, or abandonment that I experienced.
  4. I do things to prove myself and my value to others.
  5. I try to control everything around me so I can feel safe.
  6. I compare the choices I’ve made to those made my others.
  7. I minimize or deny my own wants and needs.
  8. It’s sometimes difficult to recognize or tell the truth.
  9. I am unable to find, or value, my own beautiful voice.
  10. I’m unable or unwilling to recognize or challenge my self-sabotaging or self-destructive thoughts, beliefs, and behavior patterns.
  11. I’m prone to making everything worse than it is – I have a constant expectation of failure, disappointment, or betrayal.
  12. I relive or rehash past traumas or challenging events.
  13. I engage in negative self-talk, and my negative ego takes over.
  14. I engage in behaviors that create shame, guilt, or self-punishment.
  15. I break promises I’ve made to myself.
  16. I fail to keep the commitments and/or agreements that I’ve made with others.
  17. I find it difficult to finish what I start.
  18. I hold in anger, resentment, contempt – or I speak negatively about those who I feel have hurt me in some way.
  19. I deny or minimize my power of choice.
  20. I defer to others – allowing them to make decisions for me.
  21. I rely heavily on my physical senses to make decisions and am often disconnected from my intuition and divine inner guidance.

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Trusting yourself takes compassion, forgiveness (of others and yourself) and a commitment to strengthen your character.

 

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 Next Steps:

Your next step is to identify the top three ways you don’t trust yourself. Remember, this is for YOUR growth and development. Then, identify three action steps you are committed to doing to build your personal trust and leadership. Lastly, make an effort to really focus on these things. Remember, your leadership depends on your trust!

The top three ways I don’t trust myself are:

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Three action steps I’m taking today to build personal trust and leadership:

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30 replies
  1. sherry Richert Belul
    sherry Richert Belul says:

    Wow, Tandy! I love that you really made this simple for us to see the ways in which we don’t trust ourselves. AND THEN, you gave us a tool to help us identify those next steps which we could take. It is SO empowering to walk through this process with you as you outlined it in this post. I love the way you think! Thank you.
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      You are very welcome, Sherry! I am so glad this article was valuable for you:-) I’d love to know what you discovered about yourself!

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  2. April Williams
    April Williams says:

    Very thought provoking Tandy! Some of these resonated with me and I will definitely spend some time journaling and doing some deep inner work to improve myself. Thanks for such a great post. xo

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  3. Lorii Abela
    Lorii Abela says:

    I think the biggie is the disconnection with the inner guidance. People can live day to day without even paying attention to this. We are not just human but we have also our spiritual side.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Yes, Lorii! We are spiritual beings having a human experience. I really believe that. Disconnection with our inner guidance is really crucial.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Jennifer, me too. Trust is such an important thing. It’s important to highlight the issues associated with trusting ourselves as a foundation for leadership… and leading from WITHIN.

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  4. Reba Linker
    Reba Linker says:

    Thank you, Tandy. The funny thing about self-trust is that often we don;t quite realize when we lack it – it is our normal and it is challenging to envision any way but the way we know. These are interesting points and signs to look for.

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  5. Gina Hiatt
    Gina Hiatt says:

    Hi Tandy, This really hits home because I’ve been told that when I do a “speak-to-sell” talk or webinar to a group that when it comes to the sales part, I tend to downplay it. Since I’ve been told that more than once, I know it’s true. It’s a difficult habit to break, and I’m not sure how to do it, other than practice not doing it.
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Gina, I hear ya on that! It’s definitely something that must be practiced to feel good about. Even then, it can be a struggle.

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  6. Apolline Adiju
    Apolline Adiju says:

    This is very inspirational, and I love the way you expand on the points. Reading through gives me a better understanding of who I am, and sadly I discover that I have some of the 21 traits that prove that I do not trust in myself.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Kristen, we all have areas where we find it difficult to trust ourselves. Awareness is key. Now that you are aware, you can work on these things to strengthen your self-leadership.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Robin, you raise an excellent point about people who lack self-trust often can’t make a decision. That is SO true!

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  7. Lori English
    Lori English says:

    Tandy,
    A great post with a lot of good information that helps others see what questions to be asking themselves to be mindful if they are secure with themselves.Everyone may have a little insecurity, however, there are many tips that can help to modify this.Thank You!

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  8. Alicia
    Alicia says:

    This is such an incredible post. I love the robust list that you provided for others to examine their self trust levels and self worth. This is a much needed article. You certainly are the epitome of inspiring greatness. Keep up the wonderful articles.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Thank you so much, Alicia. I appreciate your comments. I’m so glad this was a valuable post for you.

      Reply

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