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Self-Care, Goals and the Concept of Time

Self-Care, Goals and the Concept of Time

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I was just interviewed by a recent friend about self-care and the concept of time and wanted to share some insights.

A Little Background

I don’t share this very often.  I got married when I was 19 years old. I had my daughter Amanda when I was 20 years old. I immediately went to college. I did my undergraduate degree in management with a minor in human resources. I worked in corporate America. I was climbing the corporate ladder.  Then I had my second daughter, Sarah, while I was in school. After graduating, I immediately started my graduate degree. While I was wrapping that up, I got pregnant with my son, Steven, and I continued to climb the corporate ladder. It wasn’t an 8 to 5 job. It was very, very demanding.

My then husband (otherwise called WASbund) was extremely supportive of my education. He worked nights and I worked days. When I got home from work, basically, he was off to work. I had the kids to myself. We didn’t have any family in the state. We had nobody except ourselves. I went to school. I doubled up on coursework in my graduate degree and defended my thesis three weeks before our son was born.  At the time, we were moving into a house a month before Steven was due. I laugh now because it’s kind of crazy that we did all this.

When I had kids, I didn’t take time off with Amanda and Sarah. I was entrenched in corporate America and the rat race. My boss put a fax machine in my house. Yes, back in the days when fax machines existed – lol. I would hold Sarah in one hand and I would write with the other, and fax, and work all hours. It was craziness when I think about it.

The Concept of Time

In corporate America, whenever people would come into my office and say to me, “I don’t have time to go to school, Tandy, because I’m raising a family, because I’m planning my wedding, because I’m taking care of my husband, because I have dogs, because whatever.” I would say, “When it becomes important enough to you, you will make time.”

So, what is something that you have been wanting to do, and you have made excuses, you have made great justifications for why you don’t have time for said thing. Think about what you are valuing because this whole concept of time is about whatever we value is where we invest our time.  We spend our time on what we value. We spend our time on what we value. Click To Tweet

If you value education, you’re going to make time for that, whether it’s formal education or your own personal development. If you value relationships, you’re going to invest time in that. If you value your health, you’re going to invest time in that.

Today, my friend asked me, “How much time do you invest in self-care a day?” I said, “No less than two hours, between two and three hours a day.” She asked, why do you invest that much time?” I said, “Because I value my health, I value myself, and I choose to invest that time.” Our conversation then shifted to do you still have time for your business, for your kids, for all the different moving parts in my life. I said, “Absolutely. In fact, the time that I do spend is better because I’m more productive, I’m more focused, and I find more often than not that I’m focused on the right things.”

You don’t have to spend two or three hours a day on self-care, but I want to ask you, how much time do you invest in yourself… in your self-care? If you don’t invest time in yourself, what excuse do you have for not investing that time in you, because after all, self-love is the most important love. It’s the best love. The extent to which you are able to live your life with passion and purpose, the extent to which you are able to lead a life that matters, to leave a legacy beyond yourself, has direct correlation with self-love and with how effectively you are treating yourself.

No one’s perfect.  There are days that I’m just rolling out of bed going, “Oh, my gosh, yoga. Okay.” Once I’m there, I’m hyped, and it’s all good. But if there’s something in your life that you have been wanting to do, and you aren’t doing it, figure out why and change it. Remember,  you invest time on things you value. That’s the bottom line.

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We all have stories around why we can or can’t or did or didn’t or should or shouldn’t or could or couldn’t do things. It’s about getting beyond those limiting beliefs, beyond those excuses, beyond those reasons that sound perfectly reasonable at the time, and investing in yourself and what matters. What matters is that you are healthy, that you have awesome relationships, that you have the freedom, whatever that looks like for you, and that you’re happy and you have peace. That’s what we all want, right? That ultimate freedom. I dare you to find ONE thing… ONE way that you can exercise better self-care and implement it. Let me know how it goes.

Are you living your life with passion and purpose? Do you love yourself first? How do you demonstrate that self-love every day through your self-care practice? Are you leading a life that matters? At the end of the day, those are the things that are going to matter. Whatever you do, take time for yourself.

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Tandy Elisala is passionate about bringing hope and wholehearted living to people going through cancer and their caregivers. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. She left her 23-year corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously for 2 ½ years. She now teaches what she learned on her journey and how to thrive during and after cancer using the true sources of health and healing: hope and mindset, spiritual connection, relationships, alignment and mind, body healing. Tandy is a multiple best-selling author, radio show host, mother of three grown kids and her precious dog, Roxy. Learn more about Tandy at www.tandyelisala.com.

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34 replies
    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Exactly, Jennifer! I’m glad you’ll be looking at your time and priorities. The world needs you so do take care of yourself first!

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  1. Joyce Hansen
    Joyce Hansen says:

    Tandy, I so relate. Did the corporate business thing, went back to graduate school for my MA, while I continued to work, Opened up a private practice on the side. It was great fun, learned a lot and have lots of skills and experiences to fall back on. Taking time for self-care was not one of them until I could retire and now I enjoy every minute of it. Thanks for putting that thought out and up front for everyone to pay attention to.,

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  2. Lisa Swanson
    Lisa Swanson says:

    I hear myself saying the same thing to my clients. “If it’s important enough you’ll find the time” There’s always a way to get things done with our businesses, but too many times we don’t give the same respect to the time we need for ourselves. I’ll admit I’m guilty of this myself & have to constantly remind myself that the more time I take for me, the better off I’ll be in business, in relationships and in my moods!

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Amen, Lisa. The more time you take for YOU, the better you will be in all of your relationships. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting!

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  3. Lorii Abela
    Lorii Abela says:

    That is a great story. I think everything fell into place for you. And, you are absolutely right, one should have a time off. I usually look forward to mine. I usually drive in the next state and enjoy the scenery, take photos and clear myself from worries of the tasks I have left on my desk.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      My daughter, Amanda, shares your love of photography and travel. There’s something special about nature and traveling that calms one down. Thanks so much for commenting, Lorii.

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  4. Jackie Harder
    Jackie Harder says:

    You always make time for what’s important to you and if self-care — whatever that looks like to you — isn’t on the top of the list, time to reexamine your priorities. Best of luck on your program!

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  5. Karen Grosz
    Karen Grosz says:

    Tandy, this is awesome. I “preach” self-care to my clients. It is so critical to take care of yourself. I love this quote, “When it becomes important enough to you, you will make time.” That is to true for anything. If you say, I don’t have time, what you are really saying is I don’t value it enough or it isn’t high enough on my priority list. Good luck with your retreat.

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  6. Candess M. Campbell
    Candess M. Campbell says:

    Love this article. Often, we seem to be on the same page. I was a single mother of two daughters from age 19 on and worked full time and put myself through school at the Jesuit Gonzaga University and got my master degree in Counseling Psychology. During my graduate studies I also studied the Goddess religion. I facilitated circles of women exploring their own feminine spiritual power. This was in the early 1990s. Now I facilitate a karmic clearing workshop where women connect with their Goddess Self and Goddess. I love the work you do!
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Glad you loved this article, Candess. I agree we are often on the same page. Our paths have taken similar paths. We are women, hear us ROAR!

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  7. Alene Geed
    Alene Geed says:

    Tandy, thanks for giving us an insight into who and what you are. I applaud you for the life you have created and appreciate the decisions you made along the way. I agree that we each determine what is important to us along our journey
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  8. Beverley Golden
    Beverley Golden says:

    Absolutely agree with you about people using ‘time’ as an excuse in their lives, Tandy. I find that people stop themselves from doing things they often want to do, using time or money as the issue. Personally I know that I do spend time on things I value, even in the moments I am a bit pressed for time. Taking time for ourselves is really the cornerstone of self-care and overall health and wellbeing. If we don’t have time for ourselves, who will? Thanks for the wonderful reminders in this post!
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Yes, taking time for ourselves is the cornerstone for overall well-being. I agree with you 100%. Thanks for stopping by:-)

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  9. Kristen Wilson
    Kristen Wilson says:

    OH girl.. you got that right. I had a similar journey/struggle… just a little different but sounds the same. I also went through Weight Watchers and won, lost 60 lbs and have managed to keep most of it off… because I MAKE time to work out every morning. Similarly, I love to shoot and MAKE the time to keep up my perishable skill of shooting my handgun… and folks say, I don’t have time (for either of those, or networking etc)…. but my response, like yours is… you make time for what is important to you. I find it funny that some don’t have time to do things… but when it turns to something fun, suddenly they make time… just reinforces.. you make time for what’s important. Great reminder and good luck on the Goddess retreat! 😉

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Wow, we have walked similar paths, Kristen. MAKING time is the key! Thanks so much for sharing your experience with me.

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  10. Sonya Kolodziejska
    Sonya Kolodziejska says:

    Wow, you did all that and raising a family? I applaud you. I will say though, that it may not be an excuse to people, but they want to spend time with their kids whilst they are young. There is no right or wrong way, but I feel I missed out a bit with mine when they were babies and I won’t ever get that time back.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Oh, Sonya, I relate to you about spending time with kids when they are young. I did miss moments and can never get those back. However, by the time they were old enough to remember things, I was present and accounted for in their lives and they certainly remember that:-)

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  11. Tamuria
    Tamuria says:

    I agree, we spend our time on what we value most. For me, it’s my relationships with others. I’ve noticed I spend a lot more time on self-care these days but if I really analyse why the reason is to set a good example for the Goddesses. All good though, as I still reap the benefits. Your Goddess Retreat Virtual Sanctuary sounds wonderful.
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Self-care is awesome. I’m doing a happy dance knowing you are spending more time on yourself, Tamuria. We’d love to have you join our Goddess Retreat! You’ll love it.

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  12. Lori English
    Lori English says:

    Tandy,
    I enjoyed the blog and love the Self Care tips as it is most important for all of us to take care and time for ourselves. It’s a great page and enjoyed reading look forward to more posts.

    Lori English

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  13. Susan Mary Malone
    Susan Mary Malone says:

    What synchronicity, Tandy. I was working hard this afternoon, and the thought kept coming up: You need to meditate. But I kept saying to myself, I don’t have time. Finally, it got so insistent, I did so. A big insight came to me.
    And right after, I read this.
    Yep, self-care is necessary. No matter what our lives are like.
    Thank you for this!
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