What Kind of Life Do You Want To Create?

What Kind of Life Do You Want To Create?

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I want to talk to you today about what kind of life you want to create. Do you want to create a trapped life? A caged life? Or do you want a comfortable life…which is where you are content with life? OR, do you want to live a full life, fully engaged, like really tapped into your zone of genius and living your purpose and your passion every single day?

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A Trapped Life

Here are a few questions for you that will help determine which category you are in.  If you are living a trapped life… a caged life, you feel trapped in some way, or you feel like the victim.  Where ever there’s fear, frustration, anger, there is suppression and a feeling of being trapped in some way. After a while, just like zoo animals when they’re literally in a cage for a period of time, they finally just stop and they just acquiesce, and they’re resigned to a future of being caged.  Is there anywhere in your life where you are feeling trapped? Where you are feeling resigned? Where you are feeling caged?

You usually will say things like, “Oh, they just don’t understand.” Or, “You just don’t understand!” Or, “Nobody understands!”  “Nobody understands how much I do, blah, blah, blah.” Anything that starts with those words, know that you are caged in some way, shape or form in your life.

A Comfortable Life

Now, moving up the ladder, if you are leading a comfortable life, you’re content. You’ve got a good handle on life, right? You’ve got great things going on in your life, you’re making good money, you’ve got good health, you’ve got good relationships. Things are comfortable for you. But there’s something missing. There’s something that you are longing for. There’s something better. There’s nothing wrong with life. It’s ‘just’ okay. How this manifests and how you might know you’re in the comfortable life, is you’re out to dinner with friends or family and they ask, “Hey, how’s it going?” Your response is something like, “Oh, it’s good. It’s good. It’s fine.” That is a sign, my friends, that you are compromising somehow. You know that there’s something that must be better out there for you, but you’re not sure what that is. But you’re comfortable, you’re fine. You’re okay. You can continue to live your life feeling comfortable. You just won’t be fully engaged and connected to your vision and mission.

A Fully Engaged Life

Or, you can live a full life. What Brendon Burchard calls The Charged Life. I love this, because life is meant to be lived with passion and purpose. Being fully engaged is about being present to what is. It’s about being fully connected to your mission, your vision, your passion, your purpose. It is about being enthusiastic. It’s about having more good days than bad days. It’s about really living your life in your zone of genius. It’s about feeling vibrant, in all areas of your life. If you had to rate your life from a zero to a 10, you would rate everything a 10, because you are fully engaged, you are powerful, you are moving forward and you are feeling vibrant. You are shining your bright light as only you can!

Which Life Are You Living?

Which are you? Are you living the caged life? The comfortable life? Or the fully engaged life? I hope you’re living your life full out. If you are in that comfortable stage or the trapped stage, something just isn’t right. If this is you,  I encourage you to check out my Unleash Your Greatness group coaching program. We start October 31. I would be honored to have to you as part of this program. You can get all of the information at www.coachtandy.com.

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Tandy Elisala

Founder and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness
Tandy Elisala is passionate about bringing hope and wholehearted living to people going through cancer and their caregivers. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. She left her 23-year corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously for 2 ½ years. She now teaches what she learned on her journey and how to thrive during and after cancer using the true sources of health and healing: hope and mindset, spiritual connection, relationships, alignment and mind, body healing. Tandy is a multiple best-selling author, radio show host, mother of three grown kids and her precious dog, Roxy. Learn more about Tandy at www.tandyelisala.com.

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16 replies
  1. Alene Geed
    Alene Geed says:

    I actually experienced the comfortable life when I was living in Minnesota. I had all the things you mentioned but something was missing. Finally on a trip to Arizona visiting family I expressed my feelings to my younger sister. She said the first thing that comes to mind for me is square peg round hole. that simple phrase started me on a whirlwind journey to a new life, new job, and a renewed joy . Yes I moved to Arizona and met the man I married. All because comfortable wasn’t enough
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  2. Beverley Golden
    Beverley Golden says:

    Currently I am in a social art workshop process to discover what my ‘fully charged life’ looks like at this point in my life. Right now I am living a bit of an ‘uncomfortable’ life, as I am living in the questions to see what emerges. Being a Landmark person, I do know that each of us has the opportunity to create and recreate the life we want to live. I also know being willing to live in the unknown, is a wonderful place to live and see what shows up! Thanks for your passion in what you share!
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Beverley, thanks so much for sharing your comments here. I’m a Landmark graduate, too! I’m glad this article was helpful for you.

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  3. Lydia Brown
    Lydia Brown says:

    Hi Tandy, I am in the more comfortable lifestyle. After I retired from a busy helping others career I just wanted to enjoy the quiet. I had no desire to spend a lot of time around others outside of my family. Now I desire a more engaged lifestyle and have been discussing exploring new hobbies with my husband. Thanks for the information I enjoyed it.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Great, Lydia. I wish you well as you work with your husband to create a more engaged life. We all go through phases in life and the exciting thing is we can shift when we want.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Ooooooo. I love this quote, Susan. “The best is the enemy of the good” makes perfect sense as we talk about living a fully engaged life. Thanks for your comments:)

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Amen, sister! I’m choosing a fully engaged life, too. I agree that it’s not always comfortable yet very rewarding!

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