How to Stay Young: Advice for Caregivers…and Everyone Else

How to Stay Young:

Advice for Caregivers…and Everyone Else

This article is about staying young and taking care of ourselves. Self-care is perhaps one of the most important elements to effective caregiving.  If you aren’t taking care of yourself, it is impossible to effectively take care of another; despite how hard you try.peace_TandyElisala_Feb2014-1

 

Here is my TOP 10 list for staying young:

1. Enjoy the simple things. If it takes  you 20 minutes to get to the car with a loved one, notice the birds, the waves of trees, the sky…anything. You can find joy and gratitude in the little things. Remember that for some day they may become the big things.

2. Let the doctor worry about numbers such as age and weight. I’m certainly suggesting you stay healthy and fit yet don’t focus on the numbers themselves. They are just numbers. Age is just a number and a state of mind.

3. Laugh often. Laugh loud. Laugh so loud you snort, pee your pants or cry! Laugh because of the way others are laughing around you. Have you ever done this? I know I have! Laughter is for the young at heart.

4. Cherish your health.  Your health is all you have. If you aren’t healthy and becoming healthy is within your means, you aren’t able to live a life you love. Period. If you can do something about it, do it. Join a health challenge.

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5. Keep people around you that lift you up. Get rid of the grouches and naysayers. You can’t afford to be around people who tear  you down. There is a saying that we are as effective as the top 5 people we spend time with. Who are these 5 people and do they represent who you are or where you are going? If not, cut them loose.

6. Be a lifelong learner. Regardless of your situation, make time to do something you enjoy or want to learn more about.. Never ever keep your brain idle.

7. Surround yourself with what you love. This is different than #5 in that here I’m referring to your home. Your home is your refuge. Family, pets, music, plants, keepsakes or other mementos…whatever it is that makes you happy.

8. Tears happen. Let them flow.  If anyone ever tells you to get over something, imagine me giving them a swift kick for  you. We never get ‘over’ things; we get ‘through’ them.  Be good to  yourself. This means crying when  you need to cry. Welcome  your feelings and let them come up and out. That’s the  healthy way of managing grief. Do it on your time and nobody else’s. Be sure though to release and let go of that which no longer serves you as soon as you feel you can. Holding onto grief only serves to manifest issues in other areas of your life and your health.

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9. Forgive… for YOU. Taking #8 a step further, holding onto anger, sadness, grief, etc… only serves to fill your mind with that which doesn’t help move you through the situation. I know how hard it can be to forgive someone who has betrayed you in some way or feel spite because of a loss, forgive anyway. Forgiveness isn’t about the other person or situation. Forgiveness is for YOU. Plain and simple. Don’t let others live in your head rent free. They don’t deserve it. Forgive them and you change your life!

10. Tell those closest to  you that you love them every single day. They deserve to know you love them and you deserve to share your feelings with them.

BONUS: Those that know me well know that GRATITUDE is one of my biggest strategies for staying young, enjoying life and staying healthy.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”  ~ Melody Beattie

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If you have trouble finding things to be grateful for, here’s a list to get you started:

  • I am grateful for eyes to see and hears to hear.
  • I give thanks for my hands to feel, write and hold special people and things.
  • I am thankful for having clothes and a roof over my head.
  • I am so incredibly grateful for nature music and water.
  • I am thankful for all my happy memories.
  • I am eternally grateful for each breath that I take.

YOUR TURN: What resonates with you from this article?  Do you have another item you would add for how to stay  young?  Please share below!

 

14 replies
  1. Hazel Owens
    Hazel Owens says:

    I like your statement that if you’re not taking care of yourself, you can’t effectively take care of someone else. Too often, we focus too much on making sure other people are happy, whether it’s our children, grandparents, or friends, but we neglect our own happiness. Doing little things to bring some joy to your own life can help you be a better caregiver. Thanks for the article.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Hi Hazel! Thanks so much for stopping by and for your thoughtful comments. I’m glad this article was helpful for you. Indeed, if you don’t take care of yourself, there will eventually be nothing left for anyone else.

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  2. Amethyst
    Amethyst says:

    I love this! I especially like the first one. I have to use a wheelchair when my husband and I go to places like Disney Land, and it’s very frustrating for me because it is so slow and takes so long to do so many things. My husband is the care taker, and is actually really great about it. I’m the one who gets discouraged.
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Hi Amethyst, thanks for your post. I’m glad the tips are useful for you. Being discouraged can be normal when you are relying on someone else to care for you *and* you are at Disney Land. With all the hustle and bustle of things going on there, I’d be frustrated too…wheelchair or not!

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  3. Krithika Rangarajan
    Krithika Rangarajan says:

    Hey Tandy

    I LOVE and agree with all your tips. This one in particular makes me want to give you a LONG hug: ” If anyone ever tells you to get over something, imagine me giving them a swift kick for you. We never get ‘over’ things; we get ‘through’ them”

    Absolutely. You don’t just sweep your grief under the carpet. You FIRST live it, then you leave it 🙂 Swallowing unprocessed grief is dangerous – and actually potentially fatal!

    Surrounding yourself with the right people, enjoying the simple pleasures of life and always being open to learning are a MUST to remain young at heart and mature in your mind! 😀

    Thank you so much, dear
    Kitto

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Hi Kitto! Thanks for stopping by and for the friend request. Looks like we have a lot in common.I’m glad you liked my tips and, in particular, my swift kick tip! Love your comment that swallowing unprocessed grief is dangerous… and potentially fatal. You are right about that for sure. It has a way of manifesting through our bodies in ways that we definitely don’t want to have happen. Love yourself enough to work THROUGH grief.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Hi Kitto! Thanks for stopping by and for the friend request. Looks like we have a lot in common.I’m glad you liked my tips and, in particular, my swift kick tip! Love your comment that swallowing unprocessed grief is dangerous… and potentially fatal. You are right about that for sure. It has a way of manifesting through our bodies in ways that we definitely don’t want to have happen. Love yourself enough to work THROUGH grief.

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  4. Paulette
    Paulette says:

    LOL I dont know about laughing so loud that I pee my pants! ha that might be a bit much, but I know what you mean 🙂 I’ve also been eating better by trying to eat a little less meat and slightly more vegetables. For example, I just made black bean burgers for dinner as opposed to beef burger. I don’t have to worry about fat with black beans like I would with beef or another meat.
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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Paulette, you are too funny. Black bean burgers are great, aren’t they? Good job eating well. That’s the first step in overall wellness.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Paulette, you are too funny. Black bean burgers are great, aren’t they? Good job eating well. That’s the first step in overall wellness.

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