How and Why We Disconnect From Ourselves

How and Why We Disconnect From Ourselves

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There are so many ways we disconnect from ourselves..from our higher self. Here are a few common ways we can disconnect. I’ll also share why we disconnect. Through awareness and understanding of why we do something, we can start to shift this and begin connecting with ourselves in powerful ways!  Connecting to a power higher than ourselves is the best way to fulfill our passion and purpose in life. It’s pretty darn amazing how our higher self stands ready to guide us when we are ready. We disconnect by:

 

1. Allowing fear to drive our feelings and actions.

When fear shows up and rears its ugly head, we have three choices. We can deny it. We can stay stuck or move forward regardless. When you allow fear to drive things, you aren’t allowing your higher self to come shining through. When we live in fear, we aren’t able to experience joy.  When we live in fear, we aren’t able to shine our light. We can only experience one thing at a time. Do you choose fear or joy/love?

2. Promoting bad habits.

Our habits are one of the most powerful things that dictates success of failure in life. Yes, habits are THAT powerful and that important. When we cultivate positive habits that lift us up, we are able to connect to that side of ourselves that is for our highest good. When you need to detox from technology, addiction, food, fears, procrastination, perfectionism, people-pleasing and such, you aren’t able to really create better, more life-affirming habits. One powerful way to create good habits is to develop a morning success ritual. A success ritual is a list of things you do every.single.day to clear your mind and get your day off to a good start. Writing in a gratitude journal, meditating, praying, tapping, reading, juicing, exercising, and the like are examples of a success ritual.

3. Staying busy by doing…

When we are constantly doing, doing, doing, going, going, going rather than BEing, we are disconnected from ourselves. Sometimes, we stay stuck in ‘busyness’ because we aren’t used to sitting with ourselves or we think we have to be doing something to be ‘worthy’. All of these ideas are false. Take time to just BE.. to sit with yourself. Spend time journaling, meditating, or sitting quietly with yourself. Then, you can ask Spirit a question and quietly listen for the answer. Spend more time BEing rather than DOing.

I don’t think we consciously push Spirit away or push our higher self away. I do think though that through fear, bad habits and staying busy, we subconsciously restrict ourselves. Perhaps on some level, we don’t feel worthy or deserving of all the blessings life has to offer. Either way, I recommend identifying where you may disconnect and create a plan to change this.

 

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Thanks, Stacy. I appreciate your comments. Fear is a very common issue people struggle with. The first step is deciding that you are going to feel the fear and take action anyway:-)

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  1. Carol Rundle
    Carol Rundle says:

    Staying busy by doing resonated with me. I set my phone timer for every hour so I remember to check in with God. Otherwise, life gets in the way of the spiritual connection.

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  2. Alene Geed
    Alene Geed says:

    Thanks for this Tandy. Something that helps me when I feel the fear starting to creep in.. I ask myself ‘what is the worst that can happen?’ Once I figure this out I am ok. I know it sounds like a back door way to comfort myself but honestly when I realize that the worst is not that bad… And most likely it will never get to that point, then I can move forward with confidence

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Alene, this is a great question to ask when fear starts creeping in. I absolutely love this strategy. Since 99% of the ‘worst case scenario’ never happens, this can work well to help shift your thoughts.

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  3. Jennifer Quisenberry
    Jennifer Quisenberry says:

    The constant busyness and “hustle” mentality can be counter productive at times. I think making time for me is just as important as making time for things that “keep me busy” or have me hustling. It’s all about how we think.

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      I agree 100%, Jennifer. Making time for YOU IS just as important (if not more important) than anything else that keeps you ‘busy’. It’s important to go slow so you can go fast, so to speak.

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  4. Meghan Monaghan
    Meghan Monaghan says:

    Loved this Tandy! I found myself shaking my head “yes” at so many parts of your article. If I had to choose one barrier that has stood in my way throughout my life it would be FEAR. I’ve spent the past year changing my mindset and reducing my fears so that I can be the best person possible. I’m still a work in progress, of course, but I’m improving, and that’s what counts. Nice read!

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    • Tandy Elisala
      Tandy Elisala says:

      Hi Meghan, thanks for your comments. FEAR is a huge barrier. The challenge with fear is 98% of the things we spend time worrying about doesn’t actually come to pass. We can be a good thing when we are faced with actual life or death/fight or flight situations. The majority of situations don’t fall into this category, though. We are all works in progress and making steps daily towards self improvement is what counts!

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