Self-Care is a huge topic and there are countless tips on maintaining excellent self-care. This week, I am sharing 7 mistakes you don’t know you are making and tips to overcome them. Cheers to awesome self-care!
Mistake #7: You believe everything (or almost) people tell you. Think about it. When people say negative things to you like, “I hate you” or “I don’t like you”, you believe them. There is no questioning their feelings, right? Alternatively, when people say positive things like, “I love you” or “You are beautiful”, you tend to question it and break it down every which way. Well, do they reallyyyy love me? Do they really think I’m beautiful or are they just saying that because (insert negative self-talk here)? We rarely question the bad but usually question the good. The same can apply to our health. When a doctor gives us a bad diagnosis, a lot of people accept this as ‘truth’ and don’t question it (as often as we probably should). Accept the good as truth and care less what others think of you. Recognize you are perfect from the bottom to the top and inside out!
Mistake #6: You say ‘yes’ when you really want to say ‘no’. I’ve talked about this before and discussed the importance of honoring yourself and only saying yes to that which serves you in some way; whether it accomplishes a goal, a bucket list item, being of service to others, or resonates with you. Say “no” to something today! Only say ‘yes’ to things that are for your highest good in some way.
Mistake #5: You don’t ask for help. Everyone needs help sometimes! We put others first and do, do, do for everyone else, running around like chickens with our heads cut off until the last errand is done, homework is complete, dinner and dishes are done, etc… We deserve a strong support system. Let others do things for you! Ask someone to do something for you this week.
Mistake #4: You say to yourself, “I’ll go work out after dinner or after x,y,z.” Unless you have a regular practice of exercising after dinner, you are sabotaging yourself by going home, changing clothes and getting distracted by dinner, kids, facebook, email, work, whatever it is for you… You have every intention of working out but minutes turn into hours and then it’s too late and you have a missed opportunity for exercising excellent self-care. Remember, “I regret going to the gym… said nobody ever.“ Stick with your exercise routine. Get an accountability partner. You are welcome.
Mistake #3: You watch TV for hours on end or spend time on social media like Facebook or Pinterest for hours on end…aimlessly doing nothing that really matters (in the big scheme of things). It happens to the best of us. Some strategies to help with this include scheduling time for these activities and setting timers. You could also find alternative things to spend time doing such as meditating, watching funny movies, spending time with family and friends, do a hobby, read a book, etc…
Mistake #2: You eat while watching TV. Research suggests that eating while watching TV encourages overeating. We overeat because we aren’t paying attention to our bodies as much as we are the show or movie you’re watching. We tend to eat faster, too. It can also encourage emotional eating; depending on what you are watching. If possible, I recommend eating at a table away from TV; preferably with your family.
Mistake #1: You watch crime, drama, or horror movies instead of funny or uplifting type shows or movies. Studies prove that humor heals. I like a good drama show (absolutely no horror movies allowed though) as much as the next person and it’s okay in moderation. The key is to incorporate more humor into your every day life! Watch more comedies. It’s great for your mind, body and spirit.
I hope these tips help you think about your habits and self-care. Remember that we are all responsible for the energy we bring into the world and the energy we put out into the world. Make it count and make it positive! Remember, it’s the little moments that make life big!