52 Weeks of Happiness: Week Three

52 Weeks of Happiness: Week Three

Today I want to share my week three list for the “52 Lists for Happiness: Weekly Journaling Inspiration for Positivity, Balance, and Joy”, by Moorea Seal.

The assignment for this week is to list the things that you are really good at.  Below I’ve listed all the things that I feel I’m good at.

Once you’ve made your list the next step in the process is to underline the things that you had to work for to become good at and circle the things that you feel come naturally to you. I’ve put the things that come naturally to me in bold type in this list.

  • Parenting
  • Dancing
  • Reading
  • Teaching
  • Learning
  • Leading
  • Gratitude
  • Process improvement
  • Hiring
  • Top performance
  • Yoga
  • Listening to my intuition
  • Cooking
  • Cross-stitching
  • Painting
  • Helping people feel special
  • Shopping (Can I get an Amen for shopping?!)
  • Staying hydrated
  • Affirmations
  • Strategic planning
  • Writing
  • Seeing the big picture
  • Self-care
  • Customer service
  • Meditating
  • Healing
  • Boundaries
  • Ideas
  • Overall LOVING

The things I have in bold type have always come easy to me. I never had to wonder or think about them they just came naturally and are things I am really, really good at.

The things I feel I had to work at to become good at…

I was thinking about parenting and on one hand I think that naturally I have been a good parent, yet on the other hand it is something that I worked on every single day.  If you are a parent you know what I mean.  Loving your children certainly comes naturally for most of us. Wanting to raise those little humans to be amazing socially responsible citizens in this sometimes crazy world, is super important to us.  And it takes work.  Parenting takes work.  So I’ll say I had to work to become good at parenting. I don’t think people have kids and wake up every day thinking “how can I screw this kid up?”  We all want to do a really good job. I think I’ve done an amazing job because my three kids, Amanda who’s 28, Sarah who’s 23 and Steven who’s 21, have grown up to be responsible, amazing, well balanced, well-adjusted people.

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I found that some things on my list overlapped between the worked at and natural ability groupings.

Learning comes naturally for me but is also something I’ve had to work at because I’ve had to learn how I learn. I’m a visual learner an auditory learner and sometimes it helps me to be hands on. I’m also in my head a lot so at times that impacts my learning. So I feel I’ve definitely had to work on that aspect.

Listening to my intuition is something that I feel is so important. It is something that is a critical life skill AND a leadership skill that I’ve developed and honed over the years.  I became spiritually awake when I was going through my divorce with my ex-husband. I refer to him as my “was-band”. I developed my intuition as I became spiritually awake, acknowledging it and seeing how my intuition showed up, what it looked and felt like and then working on it from there was both a natural ability and one I worked at.

Self-care, boundaries, and affirmations are all things that I’ve worked on over the years. I’ve had to work to have healthy boundaries and to implement self-care.  I saw a post on Facebook the other day that said “I was drinking a gallon of water a day. Why did I stop? Because I stopped filling my jug.”  That’s like a face/palm moment because self-care doesn’t come naturally and consistently.  When we are in the space of taking care of and doing those amazing things for ourselves of course they might feel natural and good to us. The act of DECIDING that you are going to exercise self-care, boundaries or whatever you listed, it is the action of doing it and practicing it that makes you good at it.

I think the overall theme here is, the things we are really good at, for the most part are things that are learned.  There are certain things that innately we are a rock star at. Myself for example, I absolutely know that I’m a rock star leader.  I intuitively knew how to lead and what to do and what not to do. It doesn’t mean I didn’t make mistakes but I really felt at home with it.  Same with big picture thinking, process improvement, customer service and parenting.  Everything else, we get good at by practicing. We practice by implementing and by taking imperfect action.  It’s in the process of taking imperfect action that we can improve upon that which we want do so we can continue to feel good.

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I invite you get a piece of paper and list all the things you are really good at. Then underline the things you had to work at, circle the things that come naturally to you and then see if any of these things overlap.

Just like happiness, it’s already within you. It just takes practice to experience daily.

Check out my week 2 list here.

Check out my week 1 list here.

It’s Your Turn: What are you naturally good at? What have you had to work at to become good? Please comment below!

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Tandy Elisala

Family Caregiver Coach, Cancer Empowerment Advocate and Chief Inspiration Officer at Center for Inspiring Greatness | Empowered Family Caregiver
Tandy Elisala is passionate about helping family caregivers go from being overwhelmed and stressed to empowered and calm. Tandy went through cancer four times and learned how to heal using conventional, complementary, and alternative therapy. Tandy left her corporate career to take care of both parents simultaneously while raising three kids as a single mom. She took care of both parents for 2 1/2 years until their respective deaths. Tandy now teaches what she learned on her journey. Tandy is a family caregiver coach, a multiple best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mom to three adult kids, one angel dog and one diva cat.

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2 replies
  1. Sue
    Sue says:

    Hmm, I think I’m really good at cooking, drawing, puzzles, laughing, staying positive, and yes, math. Also languages – natural or man-made (code). Thanks for the 3rd week of thinking happy 🙂


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