12 Ways to Live Your Life: A Mother’s Day Tribute
I’m sure you’ll agree with me when I say that having a good mother in your life is key to how you raise your own family. It’s important to have conversations of the heart with those you love because we all want to be remembered. In this article, I’m sharing the 12 Ways to Live Your Life that my mother shared with me. Through this tribute, I hope you all work to create and hone your legacy and your own pillars for living.
We all know in our minds that we will likely bury our parents…at least that’s the natural order of things. Somehow, growing up, I always thought my parents would always be there. It didn’t hit me until I turned 41, that, no, in fact, they aren’t always going to be there for hugs, advice, to talk with, to smile with, to create new memories together and to do the same with their grandchildren. Here’s a picture of my sister, our mother, and me giving kisses to each other.
I am so incredibly grateful for my mom. I wrote an article almost six years ago in preparation for Mother’s Day, 2012. At the time, my mom was alive. I didn’t realize, at least on a conscious level, she would return home to God before the article was published. She passed away on May 2nd, 2012. It’s interesting how ironic my wording (tense) was when I wrote this article. You can read the entire article here. I knew on a deep level that she was going to die before Mother’s Day.
There is no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.
Having raised three kids now, I realize just how important having my mom in my life was. She was always there with a gentle hand, a soft voice, and wise words. Like me, she didn’t have a parenting manual. Without my realizing it, she prepared me to be a responsible adult with good values. She prepared me for motherhood. I have relied on her guidance countless times over the years.In my mind, there is no greater accomplishment on the planet than raising children to be responsible, respectful, loving, happy, productive and contributing adults in society. Click To Tweet
In my mind, there is no greater accomplishment on the planet than raising children to be responsible, respectful, loving, happy, productive and contributing adults in society.
“There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one.”
– Jill Churchill
I don’t believe any parent has children thinking, “How Can I Screw This Kid Up?” Click To TweetNobody is perfect and there is no ‘one right way’ to raise children. I am so incredibly grateful for my mom. My parents raised me to be the person I am today.
How are You Creating a Legacy?
My mom’s legacy lives in me. It lives in my children and will live with her great-grandchildren.
I think we all want to know we make a difference.
We want to leave this physical world knowing and feeling we will be remembered.
I see parts of her in me… she is in my genes.
She is in some of my mannerisms and in my sense of humor.
She is in my laugh.
So, on this day, I give thanks to my mom for her handprints on my heart, for her tender heart expressed outwardly to everyone she came in contact with, for her incredible strength, guidance, and sacrifice. Most of all, I give thanks to her for providing a home full of unconditional love. For the millions of ways you were there for me, I thank you.
12 Ways to Live Your Life
When asked what advice my mom would give future family generations, she shared the following 12 important things. I think these 12 ways to live your life is great advice for everyone:
- Always be true to family members.
- Nurture positive energy.
- Take time to remember those that have passed.
- Do your personal best.
- Take very good care of your health.
- Celebrate holidays with traditions and gusto.
- Love yourself and put yourself at the top of your “to do” list.
- Remember you are making memories all the time.
- Prepare for the future.
- Treat people the way you would want them to treat you.
- Always try to validate others’ emotions and opinions with respect.
- Remember that being polite never goes out of style.
Well Mom, on this beautiful day, I promise you we will do our personal best to follow your sage advice! Six years later, this is as true today as when it was written. I always get emotional around the anniversary of her death and wanted to post this in her honor on this Mother’s Day. I hope it inspires you to create your own legacy!
Check out this article via my Empowered Family Caregiver podcast. See episode 10 here:
What Advice Would You Leave for Future Generations?
What advice would YOU leave for future generations? How are you living your life today? In the end, people will measure your life in one sentence, two if you are lucky. Pick your sentence TODAY and take imperfect action that moves you closer to how you want to be remembered.In the end, people will measure your life in one sentence, two if you are lucky. Pick your sentence TODAY and take imperfect action that moves you closer to how you want to be remembered. Click To Tweet
If you are fortunate enough to have your mother and/or grandmother with you, give her a big hug and tell her how much you love her. If she’s not near, call her today!
Blessings to mothers everywhere!